Quotes About Attachment

From the second month on, dim awareness of the need-satisfying object marks the beginning of the phase of normal symbiosis, in which the infant behaves and functions as though he and his mother were an omnipotent system—a dual unity within one common boundary.

four subphases of what we term, overall, the separation-individuation process: differentiation from the mother, practicing of motor skills, rapprochement with the mother, and movement toward object constancy.

Mahler, through her earlier work as a pediatrician and her psychoanalytic work with psychotic children, had become interested in how, during the first three years of life, a child had to separate from the mother-infant dual unity.

achievement of a separateness in the presence of mother.

Separation and individuation are conceived of as two complementary developments: separation consists of the child's emergence from a symbiotic fusion with the mother (Mahler, 1952), and individuation consists of those achievements marking the child's assumption of his own individual characteristics.

If you become a bird and fly away from me, I will be a tree that you come home to.

It's a long time that I've loved you. Never, never go away.

It's pitch, sex is. Once you touch it, it clings to you.

Home is home, no? - whatever layabouts you live with, whatever tempers and timidities. I was glad to glimpse them, and glad to go to my own bed among them, with the right smell and the right hollows holding me . . .

He was fine, and foreign, and he did not belong here. I held him close, not crushing, not waking him, letting him sleep, and I suffered. I had never felt such feelings before. I would do anything for him; I would do anything. Anything that was asked of me, that would increase his happiness or health, I would do, and willingly. So I told myself, rocking him, the winter sky white at the window.

If grief had a permanence, then didn't also love?

Fidelity, enforced and unto death, is the price you pay for the kind of love you never want to give up, for someone you want to hold forever, tighter and tighter, whether he's close or far away, someone who becomes dearer to you the more you've sacrificed for his sake.

I {} you more than [[[{{{}}}]]].

You don't really own anything. Nothing is yours forever, not your body, not your youth, not even your mind.

I can't imagine a universe in which i try to unlove her

Anything and everything made her think about him. He was so much a part of her, embedded in her soul. [Mina and Diego]

Children become like the things they love.

Had-I and But-Known looked back at her with identical icy stares of umbrage and reproof. She belonged to them. How dare she make such a fuss of Roscoe? He owned a perfectly good … well, adequate … um … anyway … Macho belonged to him. And if he hadn't trained Macho correctly, it was his fault

Bear," she cried. "I love you. Pull my head off.

E porque razão, uma cega inclinação e um cruel destino, persistem quase sempre em prender-nos àqueles que só a outros são sensíveis?

Love – are you still excited by a coat you wear every day? Love is not a coat – I was told in reply…

Si quiero ser libre para amar tengo que liberarme de mi egoísmo, de mi sensualidad, de mi avaricia, del consumismo, de mi afán por coleccionar likes.

un corazón que ama desordenadamente las cosas de la tierra está como sujeto por una cadena, o por un "hilillo sutil", que le impide volar a Dios»

Anything I've ever tried to keep by force I've lost.