Quotes About Parenting

Plan B consists of three steps or ingredients: The Empathy Step: Gathering information about and understanding what's making it hard for your child to meet a given expectation. The Define Adult Concerns Step: Being specific about why it's important that the expectation be met (how the problem is affecting the kid and/or others). The Invitation Step: Collaborating with your child to find a solution that is realistic and mutually satisfactory.

Other parents feel that lagging skills are too negative. Those lagging skills don't diminish your child's many positive attributes, but they do explain why your child has been responding to problems and frustrations so maladaptively. And, compared to many of the other things that have been said about your child, perhaps accurate is more apt.

Your child is lacking skills, not motivation.

that your child is already very motivated to do well and that his challenging episodes reflect a developmental delay in the skills of flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem solving.

What behaviors does your child exhibit when that happens? Some kids cry, or pout, or sulk, or withdraw. While that's the "easy" end of the spectrum, those kids still need our help. Some hold their breath, scream, swear, kick, hit, have panic attacks, or destroy property. Some run away, bite, cut themselves, vomit, use weapons, or worse. This end of the spectrum is much more concerning and dangerous.

He's making bad choices. This suggests that the kid already has the skills to be making good choices. Of course, if he had those skills, we wouldn't be wondering why he's making so many bad choices! He has a bad attitude.

behaviors simply indicate that your child is having difficulty meeting certain expectations

Exhausted after a full day of treating patients, William Carlos Williams angrily answered the phone. "Doctor," said a woman's voice, "my child has swallowed a mouse." "Then get him to swallow a cat," he replied, and slammed down the receiver.

The crimes you paid for as a parent: excruciating, to be blamed for something you'd never dreamt of doing, or huring someone you'd give your heart's blood to...One thing you learned as a parent was humility.

Because you're only as happy as your least-happy child.

We've seen parents successfully use a variant of this approach when an infant cries to be fed. Instead of immediately feeding the crying child, the mother lets the child know that the signal has been received but then waits for her or him to quiet down before offering the breast or the bottle. Again, it's hard to ignore the cries at first, and we realize that to some parents it sounds too cruel to even try. But

Even within a family, the demands of taking care of children may clash with those of maintaining a good relationship with one's spouse, which may help explain why marital satisfaction declines when a couple gives birth to their first child and goes back up when the last child finally moves out.

In the tales he concocted about his adoptive family, Stanley claimed to be raised by parents who taught self-control. The dying words he ascribed to his fantasy mother were "Be a good boy.

There's nothing wrong with a toddler having a tantrum. It's natural. It's our job to teach them other ways to deal with it.

A curious contradiction which any child soon sees through occurs when his parents expect to control him when they cannot control themselves.

The most important thing I have to say is that you should not take too literally what is said in this book. Every child is different, every parent is different, every illness or behavior problem is somewhat different from every other. All I can do is describe the most common developments and problems in the most general terms. Remember that you are more familiar with your child's temperament and patterns than I could ever be.

Escola é máquina de destruir crianças. Nas escolas as crianças são transformadas em adultos. É isto que todos os pais querem: que seus filhos sejam adultos produtivos. Como ficam felizes quando eles passam no vestibular!

Being a mother is hard and it wasn't a subject I ever studied.

Raising a teenager makes the terrible twos seem like a holiday in Hawaii.

Don't try to make children grow up to be like you, or they may do it.

There are three types of parents—first, those who are always fussing after their children, controlling and correcting them and trying to make them walk in the same paths as themselves; then the infinitely preferable variety, who neglect their children altogether; and lastly, the ideal kind, who watch their children from a distance and are ready with encouragement and friendship when that is needed. (Viola, p. 35)

The more we have sought self-fulfillment, self-actualization, self-awareness, and self-esteem, the more we have distanced ourselves from the ones who can teach us who we really are. We have failed to recognize that as our ties to our earthly parents have unraveled, so have our ties to our heavenly parents. (Chapter 6)

Clever father, clever daughter; clever mother, clever son.

Women will only have true equality when men share with them the responsibility of bringing up the next generation.