Quotes About Parenting

A medida que los padres adquieren mayor conciencia y son cada vez más sanos emocionalmente, sus hijos cosechan los frutos y también ellos avanzan hacia la salud. Eso significa que integrar y cultivar tu propio cerebro es uno de los regalos más afectuosos y generosos que puedes ofrecer a tus hijos.

6. NOS OLVIDAMOS DE CENTRARNOS EN CÓMO DECIMOS LO QUE DECIMOS Lo que decimos a los niños importa. Naturalmente. Pero cómo lo decimos es igual de importante. Aunque no resulta fácil, hemos de proponernos ser amables y respetuosos cada vez que nos comuniquemos con nuestros hijos. Es muy posible que no siempre demos en el clavo, pero este debe ser el objetivo.

when we need to say no to their behavior and redirect them toward appropriate action.

All of this applies to our kids as well. They have their own little canoes, and they float down their own river of well-being. Many of the challenges we face as parents result from the times when our kids aren't in the flow, when

contingent response," which means that we attune our response to what our child is actually feeling, in a way that validates what's happening in her mind.

As we'll explain in the coming chapters, these everyday parenting challenges result from a lack of integration within your child's brain. The

When we are preoccupied with the past or worried about the future, we are physically present with our children but are mentally absent.

Conforme los niños se desarrollan, sus cerebros «reflejan» el cerebro de sus padres.

integrar y cultivar tu propio cerebro es uno de los regalos más afectuosos y generosos que puedes ofrecer a tus hijos.

Essentially, we want caregivers to begin to think of discipline as one of the most loving and nurturing things we can do for kids.

It is confusing to children if their reality of an experience is denied or misunderstood by their parent or another significant adult, because those are the very people with whom they most need to connect.

Podemos ejercer un impacto en el futuro del mundo ocupándonos debidamente de nuestros hijos y ofreciéndoles de manera intencionada los tipos de relación que valoramos y queremos que consideren normales. Preparar

We need to know what's behind it, what's causing it. If we focus only on our child's behavior (her external world) and neglect the reasons behind that behavior (her internal world), then we'll concentrate only on the symptoms, not the cause that's producing them. And if we consider only the symptoms, we'll have to keep treating those symptoms over and over again.

By wondering what our kids are trying to accomplish and by allowing them to explain a situation before we rush to judgment, we're able to gather actual data from their

Why-what-how questions give us a new way of moving from reactive parenting to receptive and intentional Whole-Brain parenting strategies.

We don't want our children to hurt. But we also want them to do more than simply get through their difficult times; we want them to face their troubles and grow from them. When Amanda retreated to the left, hiding from all of the painful emotions that were running through her right brain, she denied an important part of herself that she needed to acknowledge.

O si tu hijo no se cansa del expositor de Thomas la Locomotora en la tienda de juguetes y no está dispuesto a soltar el muñeco para poder marcharos, puedes proponerle un «sí» condicional. Prueba con algo así: «¡Ya sé! Llevamos a Thomas a la dependienta de allí y le explicamos que quieres que te lo guarde en un lugar seguro hasta que regresemos el martes para el cuentacuentos.»

Recapitulando, consiste en lo siguiente: la meta última de la labor de los padres es el apego seguro de nuestros hijos. Eso se logra mediante la presencia y la creación de las cuatro condiciones. Para eso es necesario que encontremos el sentido de nuestras propias narraciones personales, la historia de nuestras relaciones y nuestro apego. Así pues, ahí es donde empieza todo: en la comprensión de la clase de apego que recibimos de nuestros cuidadores. La sucesión

Children are particularly vulnerable to becoming the targets of the projection of our nonconscious emotions and unresolved issues.

To put it simply, asking the why-what-how questions helps us remember who our kids are and what they need.

By getting clear on your own experiences, and developing a coherent narrative about them—making sense of what happened to you and how it influenced your development—you can earn the type of attachment approach that allows you to learn how to parent in ways that are completely different from, and much healthier than, the ways you were raised.

parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

From parental sensitivity and structure emerge a child's resourcefulness, resilience, and relational ability.

You can become the safe harbor for your own children that you never had as a child.