Quotes About Support

It's been difficult for codependents to get the information and practical help they need and deserve. It's tough enough to convince alcoholics (or other disturbed people) to seek help. It's more difficult to convince codependents—those who by comparison look, but don't feel, normal—that they have problems.

with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don't love you—they are saying they don't love themselves.

with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don't love you—they are saying they don't love themselves. — CODEPENDENT NO MORE

with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don't love you—they are saying they don't love themselves. — CODEPENDENT

Clear thinking means we don't allow ourselves to become immersed in negativity or unrealistic expectations. We stay connected to other recovering people. We go to our meetings, where peace of mind and realistic support are available. We work the Steps, pray, and meditate.

Nobody has ever loved us in a way that met our needs.

Most of us have been so busy responding to other people's problems that we haven't had time to identify, much less take care of, our own problems.

Even recovering alcoholics and addicts noticed they were codependent and perhaps had been long before becoming chemically dependent.8 Codependents started cropping up everywhere.

Pneumonia victims will cough until they get appropriate treatment for their illness. Alcoholics will drink until they get the same.

Empowering women is the next step in human evolution, and as the uniquely endowed creatures we are, we can choose to help bring it about.

Zen Hugs - the hugs that you would get, if we were there, if we could hug you, but we aren't, and we can't.

what the hell do I do about a broken lifebond? He shook his head, obviously at a loss. I can't tell you; I don't know. I don't Heal minds, I Heal bodies. And I don't know of anyone who Heals hearts.

What is courage? its chorus asked--and the song answered, It is to give when hope is gone, when there is no chance that men may call you a hero, when you have tried and failed and rise to try again. It asked the same of friendship, answering that the friend stands beside you when you are right and all others despise you for it.

Ain't necessarily 'bout bein' the 'right one' so much as it is bein' the one that's there an' willin'.

I'm tired of being alone, and fighting my battles alone.

Dedicated to Elizabeth R. Wollheim. Just 'cause.

I have only one question, my sister and my friend," she said, so earnestly that Kethry came out of her own fear and looked deeply into the shadowed eyes that met hers. "And that is this; which way do you want them sliced—lengthwise, or widthwise?

It's amazing how many people will care about you if only you would care about them, and It's even more remarkable how many people will care about you anyway

I am your boat! I am your crew Your rudder and your mast - Your friend, I am your limpet too And your elastoplast. - Tintinnabulum

Families are like fudge—mostly sweet with a few nuts!

There's a verse in the Gospel of Matthew that - regardless of your religious beliefs - we would do well to remember when we find our feet getting a little too big for our boots: He who exalts himself shall be humbled; and he who humbles himself shall be exalted. So if you want to be truly great, then walk humbly and talk softly - it is a sign that your success is real and that you have learnt that we only succeed because of the love and support we have had from many.

But Mum and Dad just loved me, regardless, and that has helped me so much in my life: to have the confidence to just be myself and to go for things.

What a thing it is to have an unruly family!

Loving someone, even loving them so hard your teeth hurt, is necessary, but not sufficient if you are not there for them. If you're not there when they need you, then you force them to make a life without you. They have no other choice. You may believe at some point you can turn around and say, 'Now, I'm ready.' But you'll only discover that they've moved on.