Quotes About Behavior

What you think is not the point. What you do is what's going to count.

Love isn't how you feel. It's what you do.

You're not responsible for how you feel. You're responsible for what you do

Most parents probably deserve to be punished for one reason or another. Mostly their children don't act on it.

Idiot, Proginoskes said, anxiously rather than crossly. Love isn't how you feel. It's what you do. I've never had a feeling in my life

God, Benny, don't blow your nose like that in the church. You'd lift half the congregation out of their seats," Patsy warned.

I'll tell you what's brought it on – the behaviour of a man who has acted like a selfish bastard. You've thought of nobody but yourself, Louis, all the time … self, self, self.

That was the thing about people her age, they were programmed to work and smile and they just go on with it.

She hadn't dreamed a time would ever come when someone might want to emulate her talk or behavior. Consequently, it made her feel tight and strange inside to hear her words on the kid's lips. A small part of her was astonished and secretly flattered. But a larger part was appalled.

good decisions aren't always made for healthy reasons.

addictive behavior is often a search for safety rather than an attempt to rebel or a selfish turn inward

if punishment worked to fight addiction, the condition itself couldn't exist.

Dependence" itself is pathologized, when, as we've seen, dependence isn't the real problem in addiction: compulsive and destructive behavior is. (And indeed, the DSM-5, published in 2013, recognizes this, replacing "dependence" with "moderate to severe substance use disorder.")

Drug taking starts as a rational, conscious choice and through repetition becomes an automatic, unconsciously motivated behavior. Addicted

Research] suggests that what we think of as free will is largely an illusion: much of the time, we are simply operating on automatic pilot, and the way we think and act – and how well we think and act on the spur of the moment – are a lot more susceptible to outside influences than we realize.

When people in authority want the rest of us to behave, it matters—first and foremost—how they behave.

The real me isn't the person I describe, no the real me is the me revealed by my actions.

our unconscious reactions come out of a locked room, and we can't look inside that room. but with experience we become expert at using our behavior and our training to interpret - and decode - what lies behind our snap judgment and first impressions.

The poorer children were, to her mind, often better behaved, less whiny, more creative in making use of their own time, and have a well-developed sense of independence.

if we can control the environment in which rapid cognition takes place, then we can control rapid cognition

But in the end it comes down to a matter of respect, and the simplest way that respect is communicated is through tone of voice, and the most corsive tone of voice that a doctor can assume is a dominant tone. 

Mimicry, they argue, is also one of the means by which we infect each other with our emotions. In other words, if I smile and you see me and smile in response—even a microsmile that takes no more than several milliseconds—it's not just you imitating or empathizing with me. It may also be a way that I can pass on my happiness to you.

Transparency is the idea that people's behavior and demeanor—the way they represent themselves on the outside—provides an authentic and reliable window into the way they feel on the inside.

All of us, when it comes to personality, naturally think in terms of absolutes: that a person is a certain way or is not a certain way. But what Zimbardo and Hartshorne and May are suggesting is that this is a mistake, that when we think only in terms of inherent traits and forget the role of situations, we're deceiving ourselves about the real causes of human behavior.