Quotes About Behavior

It's really important for children to have good morals and good manners, and that they're thoughtful of other people and that they learn the consequences of their actions.

I'm teaching my daughters to be ladies by showing them how to dress appropriately when they leave the house, and how to be thoughtful and polite.

The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts.

But behavior in the human being is sometimes a defense, a way of concealing motives and thoughts, as language can be a way of hiding your thoughts and preventing communication.

Your thoughts greatly influence how you feel and behave. In fact, your inner monologue has a tendency to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Just because I don't do bad things doesn't mean I don't have bad thoughts.

Parties are not built up by deportment, or by ladies' magazines, or gush.

As novices, we think we're entirely responsible for the way people treat us. I have long since learned that we are responsible only for the way we treat people.

Experts say you should never hit your children in anger. When is a good time? When you're feeling festive?

My major vice is sarcasm with a side of caffeine addiction.

What happens when people cannot trust the institutions that are supposed to protect them? What happens when the fundamental laws that constitute and protect decent behavior crumble? The Netherlands in 1940 was like a petri dish in which one can examine how people brought up in freedom react to catastrophe when it is brought to their door. It is a question still worth asking today.

How strange that the bully, unmasked, is always awash in self-pity.

as if by behaving modestly and discreetly they could make the fire stay up on the mountain and die there, like an unwanted god.

He knows just what buttons to push. We should reword this one so it's more accurate: when he's having difficulty being flexible, dealing adaptively with frustration, and solving problems, he does things that are very maladaptive and that adults experience as being extremely unpleasant.

Now you know: these skills don't come naturally to all children. We tend to think that all children are created equal in these capacities, and this assumption causes many adults to believe that behaviorally challenging children must not want to do well. Now you know better.

if the punishments a child has already received for their concerning behaviors haven't put an end to these behaviors, it must be because the punishments didn't cause the child enough pain. So, they add more pain.

QUESTION: What if my child and I agree on a solution and then she won't do what she agreed to? ANSWER: As you've read, that's usually a sign that the solution wasn't as realistic and mutually satisfactory as you may have first thought. That's not a catastrophe, just a reminder that the first solution to a problem often doesn't get the job

In the Define Adult Concerns step, kids practice listening to another person's concerns (what many of us refer to as empathy), taking another person's perspective, and appreciating how their behavior is affecting others.

With Plan A, you're trying to solve the problem through the use of power. Power causes conflict. If you teach power, you'll get power back. In other words, being unilateral is a good way to get your kid to respond in kind.

I've noticed that it's been difficult for you to stick with the thirty-minute time limit on playing video games. What's up?

Strategy #3: Asking about the situational variability of the unsolved problem; in other words, why is the child meeting the expectation sometimes and not other times?

Strategy #6: Making a discrepant observation. This is where you're making an observation that differs from information that the child has already provided in the Empathy step.

by making appropriate, corrective statements to set the record straight ("Dad, I don't think that's true at all"), a kid with concerning behaviors may not have those skills and may therefore become extremely frustrated in the face of these inaccuracies.

How the problem is affecting the kid (health, safety, learning) How the problem is affecting others (health, safety, learning)