Quotes About Behavior

Conversely, when we gaze away during a conversation, we tend to do so to engage a thought more clearly without the distraction of looking at the person with whom we are talking. This behavior is often mistaken as rudeness or as personal rejection, which it is not. Nor is it a sign of deception or disinterest; in fact, it is actually a comfort display (Vrij, 2003, 88–89).

USING PACIFIERS TO READ PEOPLE MORE EFFECTIVELY

Concerted (effortful) observation—is absolutely essential to reading people and detecting their nonverbal tells successfully.

what other published works often ignore: the critical role played by the limbic system

Let me tell you, if you have never seen an agitated squirrel you have seen very little, nor have you heard much, because the sound of an angry squirrel is not to be forgotten.

The modern food and drug industry has converted a significant portion of the world's people to a new religion—a massive cult of pleasure seekers who consume coffee, cigarettes, soft drinks, candy, chocolate, alcohol, processed foods, fast foods, and concentrated dairy fat (cheese) in a self-indulgent orgy of destructive behavior.

Old habits die hard; most Americans still cling to what they were taught as children.

donde hay poca diferencia entre el cristiano y el no cristiano en lo que pensamos y creemos, pronto habrá poca diferencia en como vivimos.

I tend to be a bitch when it's hot.

For him, petulance was a pastime.

Good manners were a part of his inheritance, like left-handedness or hemophilia.

I long ago learned that one's illnesses are both pleasanter and more useful if one keeps their exact nature to himself: one's friends, uncertain as to the cause of one's queer behavior and strange sufferings, impute to one a mysteriousness often subtly convenient.

On our planet, sir, males and females copulate. Moreover, they enjoy copulating. But for various reasons they cannot do this whenever, wherever, and with whomever they choose. Hence all this running around that you observe. Hence the world.

rum-drinking pirates, strong-willed women, courtly manners, eccentric behavior, gentle words, and lovely music.

These, then, were the images in my mental gazetteer of Savannah: rum-drinking pirates, strong-willed women, courtly manners, eccentric behavior, gentle words, and lovely music. That and the beauty of the name itself: Savannah.

If there are two churches next to each other, and you know in one of them you might hear words that will deal pointedly with your sinful behavior, and in the other you will only hear an uplifting, encouraging word, you'll pick the latter. This is what Paul said would eventually happen—people would choose good over God. The correct question is not what is more desirable, but what is more beneficial?

The truth is we are defined by our actions, not by our intentions.

A minister or a Christian is what he lives, not what he preaches.

Most are deceived by and drawn to behavior and things that seem right, good, and wise but are contrary to His wisdom.

all misbehaving children are dis-couraged. Having lost heart, they believe they must manipulate in order to get their needs met.

Perhaps nothing so accurately characterizes dysfunctional families as denial. The denial forces members to keep believing the myths and vital lies in spite of the facts, or to keep expecting that the same behaviors will have different outcomes. Dad's not an alcoholic because he never drinks in the morning, in spite of the fact that he's drunk every night.

When a person represses over the course of a number of years, intelligence is greatly contaminated and diminished. The frozen patterns become chronic patterns. It is as if the "on" button is stuck and plays all the time. Figure 4.6 shows how little intelligence is left uncontaminated.

CONVERSION I spoke of affect and need conversion when I described how Max compensated for his abusive and neglectful abandonment by converting most of his feelings and needs into sexual thoughts, feelings and behaviors. There are other ways that conversion defends us against toxic shame.

The person feels bad and acts upon that feeling as if it were really a fact.