Quotes About Behavior

What a perfectionistic system creates is a "how to get it right" behavioral script. In such a script one is taught how to act loving and righteous. It's actually more important to act loving and righteous than to be loving and righteous. The feeling of righteousness and acting sanctimoniously are wonderful ways to mood-alter toxic shame. They are often ways to interpersonally transfer one's shame to others.

Your inner child also needs to learn the difference between expressing a feeling and acting on a feeling.

It tells you that you are responsible for other people's feelings and behavior; it may even tell you that your behavior made someone else sick, as when a father says, "Look what you kids have done, you've made your mother sick!" This results in your having a grandiose sense of responsibility. Toxic guilt is one of the most damaging ways your preschool inner child was wounded.

Adults who have a wounded inner child who failed to learn this lesson tend to be rigid and absolutist. They think in all-or-nothing extremes.

our threshold of survival-prone behavior is so high it takes the prospect of total extermination to activate modes of placation and compromise, may there not be other processes, equally life-preserving, which can similarly be triggered off only at a far higher level of stimulus

The bothersome noise of religious talk grows irksome when laid upon the living score of discordant behavior. Talkative's

Bun.  That practice of theirs, I abhor, said I; yet it doth not follow that, because they did so, therefore all others will do so.  I look upon it as my duty to behave myself under the King's government, both as becomes a man and a Christian, and if an occasion were offered me, I should willingly manifest my loyalty to my Prince, both by word and deed.

I also know that a man, by the way he lives his life, can quickly invalidate whatever arguments or advice he presents to others for their own good. Yet

A saint abroad and a devil at home.

You must do right before you feel good.

When you realize that people treat you according to how they see themselves rather than how you really are, you are less likely to be affected by their behavior.

you can act your way into feeling long before you can feel your way into action. If you wait until you feel like doing something, you will likely never accomplish it.

How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours." —Wayne W. Dyer

People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.

We need to decide how we want to be treated. Then we need to begin treating others in that manner.

Your values are the soul of your leadership, and they drive your behavior.

The emotion you continually feed is the one that will dominate your life.

Thinking divorced from actions cannot be productive.

You lose the respect of the best when you don't deal properly with the worst.

Your attitude colors every aspect of your life. It is like the mind's paintbrush.

Leadership has less to do with position than it does disposition.

You cannot rely on your feelings. You can act your way into feeling long before you can feel your way into action.

Piense, actúe, hable y compórtese como la persona que quiere llegar a ser

Think, Act, Talk, and Conduct Yourself Like the Person You Want to Become