Quotes About Behavior

Society's rules don't always work. They're limited by human frailty.

Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.

Women, I have long believed, are the more evolved of the species and have attained some higher level of being. Men act as if we just crawled from the swamp, our webbed feet dripping brackish water as we waddle ashore, seeking to mate with a female or, lacking that, a warm patch of mud.

In my mind android is a metaphor for people who are physiologically human but behaving in a nonhuman way.

You can judge a man's true character by the way he treats his fellow animals.

You can judge a man's true character by the way he treats his fellow animals.

For you know that it's a fool who plays it cool, by making his world a little colder.

I've noticed a funny thing about people who are over-weight. They spend all their time thinking about food -except when they're actually eating it

most people looking for help with relationship problems react all day to the actions of other people and thereby generate their own negative reactions to people. This, he insists, is a habit, and like any other habit, it can be changed.

Am I now going to mimic that person's bad attitude and make the situation worse, or am I going to be the person I want to be?

I forget that my greatest defense lies in my defenselessness. Being basically powerless, I have no defense. Having no defense, I choose to rise above the immediate situation rather than lower myself to that person's standard of behavior.

Anger isn't harmful, it's what we do with anger that causes problems.

we both agreed that hereafter we would each make a special effort to treat the other with more courtesy and respect.

keep principles before personalities.7 We adhere to the principle of honestly stating our feelings, but we do not discuss personalities.

Indeed, Robyn Dawes, after criticizing much of modern psychiatric theory, ends her book House of Cards6 with the statement, "Most important of all, there is no evidence that for the majority of people a change of internal state and feeling is necessary prior to behaving in a beneficial way. There is, in contrast, good evidence that changing our behavior will change our internal state and feelings. Just do it." (Emphasis added.)

Add the fact that we so-called normal people frequently allow other people and situations to control our emotions (and thereby our thinking and behavior), and the difference between us and them begins to blur.

It means that if I don't like the way someone is treating me, I can alter their behavior by first changing my own. I can have a positive influence on the situation.

Since I have, by my behavior, taught them to treat me the way they are treating me, I can often, by changing my behavior, teach them to treat me differently.

It is a basic psychological teaching that if we want to change the way we feel, we must first change the way we act.

I repeatedly tell him that if he wants to feel differently, he has to act differently. He must change his behavior, not hers. I tell him if he changes drastically enough and long enough, she will very likely change. She may temporarily get worse before she gets better, but she will change.

It's the difference between control and influence. We give up trying to control our partner's behavior. Instead, we try to influence their behavior in a positive direction. We do this by exercising choices in the way we act and in the way we communicate with them.

I chose to get angry when you did what you did.

We come to feel as we behave.

Lasting love is more a matter of learning to look outward at the world together than looking longingly eye-to-eye.   Love Conditionally. Healthy, lasting love is conditional, not unconditional. No one, including you, is love-worthy if she or he does not behave lovingly. Love is something you earn, not something you deserve. Worry more about being love-worthy than about your own self-worth.