Quotes About Behavior

Some people believe they have moral choices other than to love their partners no matter what; others believe that they deserve love, no matter how they behave. I say that both are wrong.

Females that had never been pregnant took an average of 270 seconds to find and eat the cricket; lactating females did it in just over 50 seconds.

Gin was always so calm around guys. Sandy wished some of that would rub off on her. Obviously, she didn't want all of Gin's habits to rub off, but a few of the useful ones might be nice.

Homo sapiens sapiens, the shy, murderous ape, may be spreading pestilence and pollution on a global scale, but his violent instincts at least seem to have been triumphantly tamed.

Homo sapiens sapiens, the shy, murderous ape

There is no difference, truly, Between a wife of lofty social rank Who treats her body shabbily And a poor wench, other than this: If their behavior's equally amiss The gentle one of highly ranked estate Is still called "lady" in the terms of love And if the other is alone and poor She ends up being called a wench or whore.

Heldmann (1990) writes that most people respond to criticism with behavior they learned in childhood. She calls this behavior "The Four Don'ts": defend, deny, counterattack, and withdraw.

If she's not held accountable for what she does, she won't have to look at how her behavior affects herself and those around her. And until she is held accountable by others and by herself and decides to change, she won't get better. In fact, she could get worse.

You can always encourage people to do what you want through subtle or blatant rewards and punishments. But it is still their decision how to act.

So I decided to write my own self-help book. Because BPD affects six million people in North America, I figured that at least eighteen million family members, partners, and friends—like me—were blaming themselves for behavior that had little to do with them.

Remember, your loved one's behavior is not about you. You may feel controlled or taken advantage of through threats, no-win situations, the silent treatment, rages, and other methods that seem unfair. But, no matter what the person with BPD may say, everything that's going on stems not from you, but from the disorder, and the deep pain your loved one feels inside.

In fact, if you are generous, or have a caretaking personality, they may treat you the worst.

Some people with BPD who act out may use a game we call "Tag, You're It" to relieve their anxiety, pain, and feelings of shame. It's complex because it combines shame, splitting, denial, and projection.

Or they may use your real or imagined behavior to absolve themselves of responsibility for their own actions or keep themselves from feeling shame for having engaged in the behaviors.

Instead, your words and actions bring up the person's profound internal pain, which in turn generates their extreme behavior.

they do have a personality disorder, you can't expect them to act like a healthy, well-adjusted person. That sets them up for failure—and it sets you up for disappointment

Children are especially vulnerable to projective identification because they're still forming their own identities. In fact, on a subconscious level they may feel that they may lose their parent's love if they don't do whatever mom or dad seemingly expects of them—including act badly.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is probably the best-known structured treatment for BPD.

Keep in mind that while borderline behavior can be difficult for adults to cope with, it is much harder for children. They have no sense of perspective, little experience, and little or no intellectual understanding of BPD. Furthermore, they are dependent on their borderline parents to meet their most basic physical and emotional needs.

Every day, we teach people how to treat us by showing them what we will and won't accept, what we refuse to confront, and what we let slide. We may believe that we can make another person's troublesome behavior disappear if we don't make a fuss. But the message we send is, "It worked. Do it again.

Minimizing any visible reaction: If the person with BPD knows the button-pushing is having the desired effect—whether consciously or unconsciously—chances are that the behavior will be repeated.

Psychologisch beschouwd is het juister de verklaring voor het huidige profitariaat en individualisme te zoeken in een maatschappij die mensen opvoedt om steeds hun eigen voordeel na te streven, los van en desnoods ten koste van de ander. 'Je leeft maar één keer.

De postmoderne mens lijdt aan een vreemde dissociatie, een nieuwe vorm van persoonlijkheidsverdubbeling. We klagen het systeem aan, staan er vijandig tegenover en voelen ons machteloos om het te veranderen. Anderzijds gedragen we ons op een manier die het systeem voortdurend bevestigt en uitbreidt.

Attitude is attitude, whether you're a West Coast gangster or East Coast gangster, you know?