Quotes About Balance

Rhythm is regulating.

can warm or consume, water can quench or drown, wind can caress or cut. And so it is with human relationships: we can both create and destroy, nurture and terrorize, traumatize and heal each other.

Indeed, if moderate, predictable and patterned, it is stress that makes a system stronger and more functionally capable.

when I begin to feel overwhelmed, I pull back. I have learned to say no. When I'm around someone who drains me, I put up a barrier—a nonphysical wall that keeps that person's negative energy away.

We have to take care of ourselves so we can bring our best selves.

We know that a dysregulated adult cannot regulate a dysregulated child. An exhausted, frustrated, dys-regulated adult can't regulate anybody.

Finding balance can be an exhausting challenge for anyone with trauma-altered stress-response systems. The search to avoid the pain of distress can lead to extreme, ultimately destructive, methods of regulation.

Every day we "fill our reward bucket" with various sources of reward—and not every day is the same (see Figure 4). Some days will be rich with friends and family; other days you may fill your "reward bucket" by volunteering at a local food kitchen. And some days, we are left empty, unfulfilled.

Physical well-being and your emotional health are deeply connected.

there are dozens of rhythmic ways to help us regulate.

Patterned, repetitive, rhythmic activity makes the overactive and overly reactive core regulatory networks (see Figure 2) get back "in balance." Music falls into this category—both playing and listening.

rhythm is so important, and it's often overlooked as a therapeutic tool.

it's especially regulating if you can walk in nature. The sensory elements of the natural world bathe us with their own regulating rhythms.

We are now raising our children and youth in environments that are both relationally impoverished and sensory overloading from the proliferation of screen-based technologies

So, part of the increase in anxiety in our modern world comes down to the constant bombardment of novelty—especially social novelty—and the absence of counterbalancing relational connection.

The key to healthy development is getting the right experiences in the right amounts at the right time.

one of the best ways to help someone else become calm and centered is to calm and center ourselves first- and then just pay attention.

G C Berkouwer is to be commended for his careful avoidance of the polarities of a mindless fideism and a faithless rationalism.

It is easy to become so engrossed with the mere mechanics of business as to lose the habit of thought.

Get money--but stop once in a while to figure what it is costing you to get it. No man gets it without giving something in return.

There is profundity to explore, but also laundry to do.

Jung called this practice counterbalancing one-sidedness. Our lives become too tilted toward one aspect of our identity and too tilted away from others. We're all familiar with these scenarios. We become so obsessed with our work we neglect our family; we become so consumed with caring for children we overlook ourselves; we become so focused on serving others we ignore our loved ones. The more purely one thing we are, the more in danger we are of overlooking other things.

It seems that it is incredibly easy to end up on the slippery slope where something about ourselves, our faithfulness in this case, becomes more important than our partner. The Otherness of the other again drops out of the picture, and we wind up dealing with the One (an idea, ideal, or signifier), not the Other. Libido becomes inextricably bound up with the symbolic, steering clear of the real.

Whenever we force ourselves to conform to our ideals at the expense of our own satisfaction, we assure the Other's jouissance.