Quotes About Resilience

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it, he reminded me. You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it.

Your misery doesn't change their situation. You can't lessen their misery by carrying it for them inside you. It doesn't work that way. There are ways for you to be a better mother to them at this point in all of your lives. Sentencing yourself to live in prison isn't one of them.

I would have to cope with not knowing what my future held, manage my worry, and focus on living now.

As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.

Fireflies love the dark too. There's beauty in those places. But we have to look in there to see it.

What people don't like to think about is that you can do everything right—in life or in a treatment protocol—and still get the short end of the stick. And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should. I'd let Julie do it her way—I was so inexperienced that I didn't have a strong sense of what a "way" should look like—and it seemed to help.

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it,

But I assure him that he's not breaking down; he's breaking open.

The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around it. But I can't even picture the entrance right now.

There's a popular saying, a paraphrase of a Robert Frost poem: "The only way out is through.

There is a continuing decision to be made as to whether to evade pain, or to tolerate it and therefore modify

If we don't accept the notion that there's no redo, much as we try to get our parents or siblings or partners to fix what happened years ago, our pasts will keep us stuck.

But, Wendell says, like my patient, I've come up with my own way to cope. If I screw up my life, I can engineer my own death rather than have it happen to me. It may not be what I want, but at least I'll choose it. Like cutting off my nose to spite my face, this is a way to say, Take that, uncertainty.

There's a difference between pain and suffering. You're going to have to feel pain -- everyone feels pain at times -- but you don't have to suffer so much. You're not choosing the pain, but you're choosing the suffering. ... If I'm clinging to the suffering so tightly, I must be getting something out of it. It must be serving some purpose for me.

a mudança e a perda andam juntas. Não podemos ter mudanças sem perda, motivo pelo qual é tão frequente as pessoas dizerem que querem mudar, mas mesmo assim continuarem exatamente iguais.

Breakups are awful," Claire says, popping some grapes in her mouth. "But we'd be negligent if we didn't do them.

anymore." I thought about how many people avoid trying for things they really want in life because it's more painful to get close to the goal but not achieve it than not to have taken the chance in the first place. During

There's a difference between pain and suffering. You're going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don't have to suffer so much. You're not choosing the pain, but you're choosing the suffering.

the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.

There's a difference between pain and suffering," Wendell says. "You're going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don't have to suffer so much. You're not choosing the pain, but you're choosing the suffering.

it ain't over till it's over.

Prea multi p?rinti le fac viata grea copiilor încercând, cu înver?unare, sa le-o fac? u?oar?.

There's a popular saying, a paraphrase of a Robert Frost poem: "The only way out is through." The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around it. But I can't even picture the entrance right now.

It's impossible to grow without first becoming vulnerable.