Quotes About Resilience

It's common for people with traumatic histories to expect disaster just around the corner. Instead of leaning into the goodness that comes their way, they become hypervigilant, always waiting for something to go wrong.

It may seem counterintuitive, but therapy works best when people start getting better—when they feel less depressed or anxious, or the crisis has passed. Now they're less reactive, more present, more able to engage in the work. Unfortunately, sometimes people leave just as their symptoms lift, not realizing (or perhaps knowing all too well) that the work is just beginning and that staying will require them to work even harder.

Most things worth doing are difficult," he replied. He said this not in a glib way but in a tone and with an expression that made me think he spoke from personal experience. He added that while everyone wants to leave each session feeling better, I, of all people, should know that that's not always how therapy works. If I wanted to feel good in the short term, he said, I could eat a piece of cake or have an orgasm. But he wasn't in the short-term-gratification business.

impossible to grow without first becoming vulnerable.

Fatal is fatal, but it doesn't have to be all downhill.

The most successful people in the most impossible situations are the ones that are sure they're gonna get out of it, and they go on thinking that, even if they die trying.

Resilience, thy name is Devine.

the moment you don't feel like praying, get on your knees. And the moment you don't feel like reading your bible, you'd better get that Book open.

If something upset her, she usually talked about it or cried and then got on the road to getting over it or changing it. … Kate had a tendency to bury her hurts deep inside and when they tried to rear their ugly heads, she effectively pushed them right back down. Kate gave the appearance of handling upsets well, when in actuality she did not handle them at all.

But their suffering doesn't mitigate yours." "Suffering doesn't make me special. Sooner or later, life knocks everyone down. It's how you deal with the knocks and dings that matter.

It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, but if one more person said that to her, Jodi swore she was going to lose it.

In that moment, the possibly deceased naked cowboy was the cherry on top of the dung cake that was her life.

The cart jerked, the wheels catching on something. Jodi pitched forward, felt the cart leave the sidewalk, tilt, tip. Momentum shot her from the downed cart. Her plan was to somersault forward, plant her feet, stand up. Ta-da. Unhurt. Unfazed. Except it didn't turn out that way.

Love just plain hurts sometimes, but we can't let that stop us from loving. Love is the only thing in the world that really matters.

What if she did get hurt? It wouldn't be the first time and it probably wouldn't be the last. Life hurt. That's how you knew you were alive. But life was also a beautiful adventure, and the bad things were what made the good things worth cherishing.

Comfort and a vast understanding that love couldn't be killed. They would always love the people they'd lost, but that didn't mean they couldn't love each other as well. Love.

Accept your losses and forgive your mistakes, then you can embrace a happy future.

Bloom where you're planted and if you can't do that, plant where you bloom. —Dutch Callahan

the same and you know it." "Isn't it? So you had your heart broken. Any of us that have been around for any length of time have had our hearts broken. That's life.

Any of us that have been around for any length of time have had our hearts broken. That's life. That's all it is. Loving, getting hurt, but daring to love again, even though you know you're probably going to get hurt again. That's the triumph of the human spirit. The infinite capacity to love.

none of us are getting out this world unscathed.

If he never loved her the way she loved him, it was going to be okay. It was truly better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Her heart would survive this, and would be richer for having known him.

masculine man

Some men are like oak leaves -- they don't know when they're dead, but still hang right on; and there are others who let go before anything has really touched them.