Quotes About Assertiveness

Conflict is the price you pay for intimacy. Read that sentence again, and let it sink in. If you want to connect genuinely with other people, you have to risk conflict by being frank and firm in addition to gracious and loving.

When you accept delivery on truckloads of disrespectful treatment, you are teaching immature people that they can continue to misuse you.

niceness stems from neutrality and weakness

Wherever you feel the most insecure and fearful is probably where you're being the most passive.

The Nice Girl Culture teaches [women] not to interrupt other people and to wait to speak until called upon. Unfortunately, these are little-girl behaviors that do not translate into the modern world of work. Women tend to be quieter in meetings where men are present. When they let the men do most of the talking, the men will naturally get most of the credit.

Buy it for the lady who's about to become your mother-in-law, the one who's already trying to control your life and the lives of the three children she's already pressuring you to have. Give her the book one day out of nowhere, just as a nice surprise, and when she hugs you, calmly whisper: "Don't fuck with me, Ellen. Don't even think about it. Ever." Then smile at her like everything is wonderful. Because from now on, it will be.

Haven't you learned anything, not even with the approach of death? Stop thinking all the time that you're in the way, that you're bothering the person next to you. If people don't like it, they can complain. And if they don't have the courage to complain, that's their problem

Stop thinking all the time that you're in the way, that you're bothering the person next to you. If people don't like it, they can complain. And if they don't have courage to complain, that's their problem.

It is always far easier to have faith in your own goodness than to confront others ad fight for your rights...

When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you're not saying 'no' to yourself.

I don't know the secret of success - but the secret of failure is to always try to follow the will of others.

Stop thinking all the time that you're in the way, that you're bothering the person next to you. If people don't like it, they can complain. And if they don't have the courage to complain, that's their problem.

Never try to please everyone; if you do, you will be respected by no one.

Don't say maybe if you want to say no.

Stop thinking all the time that you're in the way, that you're bothering the person next to you. If people don't like it, they can complain. And if they don't have the courage to complain, that's their problem.

He slugged back the last of his coffee and stood. Nobody gets me, sweetheart. And if I want anything you've got, you'll know the minute I come after it.

A person who respects herself isn't boastful or pushy but is secure in a way that inspires confidence.

If you have to shout to prove your point, you're probably wrong.

When a person begins to yell during an argument, it is a tip-off that he is unsure of himself.

Passion does not make careful arguments: it declares itself, and that is enough.

I was born to argue... I don't know why. I mean, from arguing with my teachers and, on occasions, my parents. I think I've mastered the art of argument at a fairly young age.

A master salesman is one who takes the offensive and never the defensive sale of an argument, if argument arises.

Are you going to win every argument?" He was pretty certain he'd asked her that once before. May be twice. "Only the important ones.

When making a point, there are 2 types of people who may disagree with you: those who can support their reasons, and the childish ones who are too worried about being told what to do.