Quotes About Assertiveness

It takes courage to speak your heart, when others do not want you to.

After all, we're all imperfect, and others have the right to tell us about it from time to time. But are you obliged to make yourself miserable and hate yourself every time someone flies off the handle or puts you down?

Now practice going through this version of the scenario each night until you have mastered it and can fantasize handling the situation effectively and calmly in this manner. This cognitive rehearsal will enable you to program yourself to respond in a more assertive and relaxed way when the actual situation confronts you again.

Ce'Nedra returned, frowning and a little angry. They won't give me their eggs, Lady Polgara, she complained. They're sitting one them. You have to reach under them and take the eggs, dear. Won't that make them angry? Are you afraid of a chicken?

What I'm trying to say, Garion,' Durnik continued seriously, 'is that you can't go through life being afraid of what you are. If you do that, sooner or later somebody will come along who'll misunderstand, and you'll have to do something to show him that it's not him that you're afraid of.

As long as I know that my motives are good, however, I'm seldom very concerned with the opinions of others.

He took zero in the way of shit

Always to be right, always to trample forward, and never to doubt, are not these the great qualities with which dullness takes the lead in the world?

I am not bound to please thee with my answers.

Be bloody bold and resolute.

For I am he am born to tame you, Kate; and bring you from a wild Kate to a Kate conformable as other household Kates.

And tell them that I will not come today. "Cannot" is false, and that I dare not, falser. I will not come today. Tell them so

Master Brook, I will first make bold with your money

Que ella que con su muerte le dice a nuestro César: Me conquisté yo misma.

Most attackers are looking for easy victims. They're not looking for a fight, not even a verbal one. Saying No makes you a less attractive target. Submitting and being nice to attackers in the hope that they will be nice to you in return is not the safest strategy." Saying "No!" helps you gather your energy, reminds you of your right to say No, draws attention, and expresses your power.

The Power of a Positive No describes how to say No when it is vital to stand up and protect your core interests and values. It is not just about how to say No, however, but about how to do so in a respectful and constructive manner that can potentially lead to agreement. As its subtitle indicates, it is about how to say No and still get to Yes.

Instead of telling your friend, "I'm not going with you to the game," say, "I'll catch you after the game." In other words, put your focus on the positive while creating the boundary you need.

Framing your solution negatively, such as "Don't shout at me," tends to focus the other's attention even more on the unwanted behavior and may unconsciously reinforce it, particularly if you are shouting back at them. It is more effective to say, quietly, "Please talk to me in a quiet tone." Focus the other's mind clearly on the positive action you want them to take.

Saying No is a way for you to communicate with yourself. It forces you to breathe, which breaks the freeze response. It gathers your energy. It gets your adrenaline going. It reminds you of the [self-defense] class, your muscle memory, the support of the line [your peers], and the fact that you have the right to fight for your own safety.

You need confidence to stand up for yourself in the face of the other's reaction. You need power to be able to follow through on your No if the other refuses to respect it.

If you are refusing an alcoholic drink, for instance, you don't need to justify your refusal. A simple respectful "No thanks" will do. You know your Yes—that is essential—but sometimes you keep it to yourself, because it is your business and not theirs.

Cobey had lost his patience and snapped at the dim-witted giant to shut his pie hole

Of course I'm an egoist. Where do you get if you aren't?

I am certainly not one of those who need to be prodded. In fact, if anything, I am the prod.