Quotes About Communication

If you don't want to play tennis with me, I'll ask somebody else, and if you don't want to play bondage games with me, somebody else will—our relationship will not be less for it. What we share is valuable for what we share. Period.

centuries of censorship have left us with very little adequate language with which to discuss the joys and occasional worries of sex.

Most of us have been struck dumb by the scariest communication task of all—asking for what we want.

I'm into S/M" is a turnoff to a lot of people who have mistaken ideas about what that means

Make it a point to let everyone you love know it.

Good communication is based on identifying our feelings, expressing them, and getting validation that our partner hears and understands what we are saying, whether or not they agree. Emotions are not opinions, they are facts—truths about what people are experiencing.

We have all been afraid to ask, we have all failed to ask, we have all been irked with our lovers when they didn't read our minds and offer us the reassurance we crave, and we have all thought, "I shouldn't have to ask." Let's remember to honor the courage it takes to ask for support, to share vulnerable feelings. Let's pat ourselves on the back when we do the things that scare us, and then let's do them some more.

To truly know yourself is to live on a constant journey of self-exploration, to learn about yourself from reading, therapy, and, best of all, talking incessantly with others who are traveling on similar paths.

Knowing, loving, and respecting yourself is an absolute prerequisite to knowing, loving, and respecting someone else.

After duly binding, stripping, beating, torturing and fucking Dossie, Janet held her and brought her nicely back down to earth. Then we went upstairs for something to eat.

Clean love is love without expectations.

We define consent as an active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned.

Let us point out that monogamy is not a cure for jealousy.

Most of us resent it when another person tells us how we feel—whether or not they are correct, it is a violation of our boundaries when another person presumes to tell us what our inner truth is. Try asking a respectful question. "How are you feeling right now? I'm wondering if you're sad.

We can't ask our lovers to hold still while we sling accusations at them, using them as a target for our frustrations; that would be asking them to consent to being abused, and they would be right to resist. But we can ask them to listen to how we feel, because putting aside their own agendas for a few minutes and listening to our feelings is a doable task.

the most successful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.

Fighting is the ultimate act of intimacy. (...) Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability.

To be an ethical slut you need to have very good boundaries that are clear, strong, flexible, and, above all, conscious.

When you respect your limits, other will learn to respect them too.

Men won't read any email from a woman that's over 200 words long.

I think that in the future, clocks won't say three o'clock anymore. They'll just get right to the point and rename three o'clock 'Pepsi.'

Most people have no idea how to politely answer a phone. The English do, and it's been their only major business advantage for the past two centuries.

Before machines the only form of entertainment people really had was relationships.

I told my father to stop smoking around the age of two or three years old and he stopped smoking. So the relationship between the kid and the parent is very powerful, and if you give the kid the right information, it can be very useful to the family.