Quotes About Communication

The key to clinical attunement is to be willing to say "I don't know" and "tell me more.

This is the PART we play in helpful communication. PART means that we are present, attune, resonate, and create trust.

You can discipline in a way that's high on relationship, high on respect, and low on drama and conflict—and

Beginning with a genuine sense of care and interest by the focus of the other's careful attention, resonance extends this positive interaction into a fuller dimension of the other being changed because of who we are. This is how we feel "felt," and this is how two individuals become a "we.

we can use these opportunities to realize that at these moments, logic isn't our primary vehicle for bringing some sort of sanity to the conversation. (Seems counterintuitive, doesn't it?) It's also crucial to keep in mind that no matter how nonsensical and frustrating our child's feelings may seem to us, they are real and important to our child. It's vital that we treat them as such in our response.

No-Drama Discipline allows us to communicate to our children, "I'm with you. I've got your back. Even when you're at your worst and I don't like the way you're acting, I love you, and I'm here for you. I understand you're having a hard time, and I am here.

In other words, deep, empathic connection can and should be combined with clear and firm boundaries that create needed structure in children's lives.

Once she had connected with him right brain to right brain, it was much easier to connect left to left and deal with the issues in a rational manner. By first connecting with his right brain, she could then redirect with the left brain through logical explanation and planning, which required that his left hemisphere join the conversation.

understand. Such an approach

CREEMOS QUE SI ESTAMOS IMPONIENDO DISCIPLINA, NO PODEMOS SER AFECTUOSOS Y ACOGEDORES Mientras impones disciplina a tu hijo, puedes estar perfectamente tranquilo, además de mostrarte cálido y cariñoso. De hecho, es importante combinar límites claros y coherentes con empatía afectuosa. No subestimes el poder de un tono amable de voz cuando mantienes con tu hijo una conversación sobre la conducta que quieres cambiar. En

Even if an emotion seems ridiculous to you, don't forget that it's very real to your child, so you don't want to dismiss something that's important to her.

You won't always be able to discipline in a way that both connects and redirects.

6. NOS OLVIDAMOS DE CENTRARNOS EN CÓMO DECIMOS LO QUE DECIMOS Lo que decimos a los niños importa. Naturalmente. Pero cómo lo decimos es igual de importante. Aunque no resulta fácil, hemos de proponernos ser amables y respetuosos cada vez que nos comuniquemos con nuestros hijos. Es muy posible que no siempre demos en el clavo, pero este debe ser el objetivo.

contingent response," which means that we attune our response to what our child is actually feeling, in a way that validates what's happening in her mind.

But it also would have missed an opportunity. My son would have missed a chance to see that relationships are about connection, communication, and compromise. He would have missed a chance to feel empowered that he can make choices, affect his environment, and solve problems.

Integrative communication (App):When individuals are honored for their differences and become linked through respectful and compassionate communication.

It is confusing to children if their reality of an experience is denied or misunderstood by their parent or another significant adult, because those are the very people with whom they most need to connect.

And remember that just by talking about the mind, you help develop it.

By wondering what our kids are trying to accomplish and by allowing them to explain a situation before we rush to judgment, we're able to gather actual data from their

O si tu hijo no se cansa del expositor de Thomas la Locomotora en la tienda de juguetes y no está dispuesto a soltar el muñeco para poder marcharos, puedes proponerle un «sí» condicional. Prueba con algo así: «¡Ya sé! Llevamos a Thomas a la dependienta de allí y le explicamos que quieres que te lo guarde en un lugar seguro hasta que regresemos el martes para el cuentacuentos.»

parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

Sometimes we assume that our kids won't behave the way we want them to, when in reality, they simply can't, at least not in this particular moment.

When we avoid bringing extra chaos and drama to disciplinary situations—in other words, when we combine clear and consistent limits with loving empathy—everyone wins.

Another problem with spanking is that it teaches the child that the parent has no effective strategy short of inflicting bodily pain. That's a direct lesson every parent should consider quite deeply: do we want to teach our kids that the way to resolve a conflict is to inflict physical pain, particularly on someone who is defenseless and cannot fight back?