Quotes About Communication

fin y al cabo, el cerebro izquierdo lógico del niño estaba en ese momento totalmente inactivo. Por consiguiente, si Tina hubiese respondido con el izquierdo, su hijo habría sentido que ella no lo entendía o que no le importaba lo que sentía. Se hallaba inmerso en un aluvión emocional, no racional, del cerebro derecho, y una

What lesson do I want to teach in this moment? The lesson is not that misbehavior merits a consequence, but that there are better ways of getting your attention and managing his anger than resorting to violence.

Seasoned parents and child therapists will also tell you that some of the best conversations with children take place while something else is happening. Children are much more apt to share and talk while building something, playing cards, or riding in the car than when you sit down and look them right in the face and ask them to open up.

You can do your kids a lot of good simply by asking, "What are some ideas you have to make it better and solve this problem?" Given the chance once they're calm, kids will usually do the right thing, and learn in the process.

añadiremos que casi todas las preguntas y dilemas con respecto a la labor de los padres se circunscriben a la idea de relación, así que en eso vamos a centrarnos aquí.

Parents often respond to their child's behavior by focusing on the surface level of the experience and not on the deeper level of the mind.

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

En realidad, sin embargo, la conducta de búsqueda de atención no solo es totalmente apropiada desde el punto de vista del desarrollo, sino que en realidad es relacional. La atención es una necesidad de todos los niños en todas partes.

Ultimately, then, kids need us to set boundaries and communicate our expectations. But the key here is that all discipline should begin by nurturing our children and attuning to their internal world, allowing them to know that they are seen, heard, and loved by their parents—even when they've done something wrong.

If his mother hadn't helped him tell and understand the story, Marco's fears would have been left unresolved and could have surfaced in other ways.

También es esencial tener en cuenta que por mucho que los sentimientos de nuestro hijo nos parezcan frustrantes y absurdos, para él son reales e importantes. Es fundamental tratarlos como tales en nuestra respuesta.

We want to engage the upstairs brain's receptivity, rather than trigger the downstairs brain's reactivity. Then the higher parts of the brain can communicate and help override the lower, more impulsive and reactive parts.

we parent, and especially when we discipline, we need to work hard to understand our children's points of view, their developmental stage, and what they are ultimately capable of.

Kids whose parents talk to them about their feelings also develop a more robust emotional intelligence and can therefore be better at noticing and understanding their own and other people's feelings. Neurons that fire together wire together, changing the changeable brain.

Our kids don't usually lash out at us because they're simply rude, or because we're failures as parents. They usually lash out because they don't yet have the capacity to regulate their emotional states and control their impulses.

when your seven-year-old becomes defiant and calls you "Fart-face Jones" after you tell him it's time to leave his playdate, he's actually saying, "I need skill building when it comes to handling myself well and communicating my disappointment respectfully when I don't get my way." By misbehaving, kids actually communicate to us what they need to be working on—what has not yet been developed or what specific skills they need practice with.

The key to clinical attunement is to be willing to say "I don't know" and "tell me more." Your intention to help, a neural stance of positive regard likely involving the social engagement system and having a desire to connect and to assist, is woven together with an interest in supporting another with kindness and

El mindsight aparece cuando nuestra comunicación, con los demás y con nosotros mismos, nos ayuda a reflexionar sobre quiénes somos y sobre lo que sucede en nuestro interior.

A parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

How we respond to our children when we're not happy with their choices—with loving guidance? with irritation and criticism? with fury and a shaming outburst?—will impact the development of our relationship with them, and even their own sense of self.

tuning in to her emotions. That attunement helped her "feel felt

You don't want to send the message that you'll be in relationship with her when she's "good," or "happy," but withhold your love and affection when she's not. Would you want to stay in that kind of a relationship? Wouldn't we advise our teenagers to avoid friends or partners who treat them like that when they've made a mistake?

Pero recuerda, el comportamiento es comunicación. Y un comportamiento problemático es, en realidad, un mensaje de nuestros hijos: «Necesito ayuda para desarrollar mi capacidad en este aspecto concreto. Todavía soy incapaz de hacerlo bien.»

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