Quotes About Relationships

An important take-home message is that it is vital to keep the lines of connection and communication open and to remember that we all—adolescents and adults—need to be members of a connected community.

brain imaging studies show that the experience of physical pain and the experience of relational pain, like rejection, look very similar in terms of location of brain activity.

With a lack of jobs and a great deal of uncertainty about participating in contemporary society, however, the adolescent period may in many ways be even further prolonged. Because modern cultural practices do not offer transitional relationships with non-parental adults to help acknowledge and facilitate the adolescent period, we have some major challenges as adolescents in our modern times.

Connection is about walking through the hard times with our children and being there for them when they're emotionally suffering, just like we would if they scraped their knee and were physically suffering.

As I've mentioned, research has revealed that people with dismissing narratives show physiological signs that their subcortical limbic and brainstem areas still register the importance of relationships. It's simply that the higher cortical areas, where consciousness is created, shut out this awareness in order to survive barren times. The key would be to align myself with these deeper subterranean circuits and bolster Denise's ability to integrate them into her life.

So the more we give our kids practice at considering how someone else feels or experiences a situation, the more empathic and caring they will become.

The healthy move to adulthood is toward interdependence, not complete "do-it-yourself" isolation.

And our disciplinary decisions go a long way toward determining how strong those connections are. The way we interact with our kids when they're upset significantly affects how their brains develop, and therefore what kind of people they are, both today and in the years to come.

You can use all of the interactions you share—the stressful, angry ones as well as the miraculous, adorable ones—as opportunities to help them become the responsible, caring, capable people you want them to be.

No-Drama Discipline allows us to communicate to our children, "I'm with you. I've got your back. Even when you're at your worst and I don't like the way you're acting, I love you, and I'm here for you. I understand you're having a hard time, and I am here.

Para llevar una vida equilibrada, valiosa y creativa, llena de relaciones personales bien conectadas, es crucial que nuestros dos hemisferios actúen conjuntamente.

In other words, deep, empathic connection can and should be combined with clear and firm boundaries that create needed structure in children's lives.

As we join in this moment in the physical realm—making appointments to be in the same space at a given interval of the clock—our nervous systems align their firing patterns as two sets of electrochemical entities phase shift

What this means is reflecting on your relationships in the past in your own family life and asking yourself how those experiences influenced your development.

But it also would have missed an opportunity. My son would have missed a chance to see that relationships are about connection, communication, and compromise. He would have missed a chance to feel empowered that he can make choices, affect his environment, and solve problems.

When we are preoccupied with the past or worried about the future, we are physically present with our children but are mentally absent.

Podemos ejercer un impacto en el futuro del mundo ocupándonos debidamente de nuestros hijos y ofreciéndoles de manera intencionada los tipos de relación que valoramos y queremos que consideren normales. Preparar

We are not meant to live in isolation, but are dependent on one another for emotional well-being.

Recapitulando, consiste en lo siguiente: la meta última de la labor de los padres es el apego seguro de nuestros hijos. Eso se logra mediante la presencia y la creación de las cuatro condiciones. Para eso es necesario que encontremos el sentido de nuestras propias narraciones personales, la historia de nuestras relaciones y nuestro apego. Así pues, ahí es donde empieza todo: en la comprensión de la clase de apego que recibimos de nuestros cuidadores. La sucesión

the longitudinal research on child development clearly demonstrates that one of the very best predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, social and emotional development, leadership skills, meaningful relationships, and even academic and career success—is whether they developed security from having at least one person who showed up for them.

To put it simply, asking the why-what-how questions helps us remember who our kids are and what they need.

From parental sensitivity and structure emerge a child's resourcefulness, resilience, and relational ability.

Benefit #1: Connection Moves a Child from Reactivity to Receptivity

The act of considering the mind of another requires us to use our right hemisphere and our upstairs brain, both of which are part of the social circuitry that allows us to enjoy mature and fulfilling relationships.