Quotes About Relationships

connection offers the short-term benefit of moving kids from reactivity to receptivity, and the long-term benefit of building the brain.

It's not how our parents raised us, or how many parenting books we've read. It's actually how well we've made sense of our experiences with our own parents and how sensitive we are to our children that most powerfully influence our relationship with our kids,

human connections shape neural connections, and each contributes to mind. Relationships and neural linkages together shape the mind. Mind is more than the sum of its parts; this is the essence of emergence.

pattern of healthy living involves the integration of energy and information within the nervous system and between people. Integration is the organizing principle that links the ways energy and information flow is shared (relationships), is shaped (the mechanisms of the embodied nervous system or, termed simply, the brain), and is regulated (the mind).

Y cuando un padre o una madre está alterado, es muy difícil que un niño esté tranquilo y feliz.

This process of linking differentiated parts into a functional whole is called "integration." As we'll see, integration is a unifying principle that will help us to understand the linkage of mind, brain, and relationships throughout our discussions. Furthermore, in IPNB, we propose that integration is the heart of health. Linking differentiated parts into a functional whole is called "integration.

The communication of emotion may be the primary means by which these attachment experiences shape the developing mind. Research suggests that emotion serves as a central organizing process within the brain. In this way, an individual's abilities to organize emotions—a product, in part, of earlier attachment relationships—directly shapes the ability of the mind to integrate experience and to adapt to future stressors.

hours of screen time—playing video games, watching television, texting—will wire the brain in certain ways. Educational activities, sports, and music will wire it in other ways. Spending time with family and friends and learning about relationships, especially with face-to-face interactions, will wire it in yet other ways. Everything that happens to us affects the way the brain develops.

Explained most simply, mindsight is the ability to see our own mind, as well as the mind of another. It allows us to develop meaningful relationships while also maintaining a healthy and independent sense of self. When we ask our children to consider their own feelings (using personal insight) while also imagining how someone else might experience a particular situation (using empathy), we are helping them develop mindsight.

We're also not talking about wearing yourself (and your kids) out by frantically trying to fill every experience with significance and meaning. We're talking about simply being present with your children so you can help them become better integrated.

Cuando los niños incrementan la capacidad de conocerse a sí mismos, de tener en cuenta los sentimientos de los demás y de tomar medidas para arreglar una situación, crean y fortalecen conexiones en el lóbulo frontal, lo cual les permite conocerse mejor y llevarse bien con los otros mientras avanzan hacia la adolescencia y la edad adulta.

music we hear, the people we love, the books we read, the kind of discipline we receive, the emotions we feel—profoundly affects the way our brain develops.

when kids learn even the fundamentals of playing piano, their brains develop differently from the brains of kids who don't, so they can more fully understand their own bodies in relationship to the objects around them.

La mente en desarrollo: cómo interactúan las relaciones y el cerebro para modelar nuestro ser.

teach reflection, relationships, and resilience.

activate them in a moment of distress by first connecting before redirecting.

La mente en desarrollo: cómo interactúan las relaciones y el cerebro para modelar nuestro ser. Va

Pero los hallazgos en distintas áreas de la psicología del desarrollo sugieren que todo lo que nos sucede –la música que oímos, las personas a las que queremos, los libros que leemos, la clase de disciplina que recibimos, las emociones que sentimos– tiene una gran influencia en el desarrollo de nuestro cerebro.

When we become parents we are given an incredible opportunity to grow as individuals because we ourselves are put back into an intimate parent-child relationship, this time in a different role.

Como pronto explicaremos, las investigaciones longitudinales sobre desarrollo infantil muestran que uno de los mejores predictores para saber cómo será nuestro hijo –en cuanto a felicidad, desarrollo social y emocional, dotes de liderazgo, relaciones significativas e incluso éxito académico y profesional– es si ha adquirido seguridad por tener al menos una persona que estuviera presente para él.

What do you really want for your children? What qualities do you hope they develop and take into their adult lives? Most likely you want them to be happy, independent, and successful. You want them to enjoy fulfilling relationships and live a life full of meaning and purpose. Now think about what percentage of your

Un niño puede tener un apego evitativo en su relación con un progenitor y, aun así, disfrutar de un apego seguro, junto con los beneficios correspondientes, con otro cuidador.

Mindsight and The Developing Mind,

La «cantidad de tiempo» sí importa. Claro que sí. Pero ver a un niño va más allá de la mera presencia física. Conlleva estar en sintonía con lo que sucede dentro de ellos y centrar realmente la atención en sus sentimientos, pensamientos y recuerdos íntimos, lo que sea que pase por sus mentes, que subyazga a su comportamiento.