Quotes About Relationships

Women never understand. We fall in love with their defects, not their perfection.

We must love one another, yes, yes, that's all true enough, but nothing says we have to like each other. It may be the very recognition of all men as our brothers that accounts for the sibling rivalry, and even enmity, we have toward so many of them.

The value of marriage is not that adults produce children, but that children produce adults.

The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but must live with a character.

They had fallen into that instant, easy friendship which feels as though it had begun before any of your memories and will last until you are so old that the humped veins on the back of your hands show dark blue-purple through your wax-white skin.

More business decisions occur over lunch and dinner than at any other time, yet no MBA courses are given on the subject.

A relationship based on trust means not walking on eggshells, but talking openly, honestly, with no hint of passive-aggressiveness or any of the other dysfunctional manipulative tactics we tend to impose on family and friends.

Another dynamic at work here is how friends, family, and church members would handle it if they knew what you were thinking. Feeling judged and banished is a common story among those who take a risk to let people in on their well-guarded secret.

A business exists to create a customer

It took eight generations of cousins marrying to produce you

I don't understand why you need verbal trickery to ensnare a temporary mate," Tochee said. "Are you not attracted to each other by what you are?

Ian chuckled. "You know what the world's greatest oxymoron is?" "Happily married," Sid said wearily.

It helped that any sexual impulse he might have felt was effectively neutralized by her drinking. After the first hour of any evening, she was not a pleasant person to be around.

He knows it never works, so why does he always go for the same type? "Optimism!

I believe I understand, friend Orion," Tochee said. "You are attracted to the young female of your species. Is she one totally fuckable babe?

He didn't rate a wave this time; she simply stood watching him drive off, looking small and sad. He folded the rear-view mirror's image up and tucked it away in a corner of his mind. The last thing he needed now was any more guilt rattling round inside his skull.

I can't trust the living," Loren told her.

A human being cannot survive alone and be entirely human.

Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our own interests, but also the interests of others.

Insecurity in attachment relationships is a signal of limitation in mentalizing skills. We find that the traditional classification of attachment patterns may be helpfully reinterpreted in this context as indication of a relatively good (secure attachment), or relatively poor (insecure attachment) capacity to manage or cope with intimate interpersonal relationships. An absence of mentalizing capacity under stress is signaled by the disorganization of the attachment system.

interpret their own and others' behavior by attributing mental states

His clinical interests center around issues of borderline psychopathology, violence, and early attachment relationships.

Mentalization is intrinsically linked to the development of the self, to its gradually elaborated inner organization, and to its participation in human society, a network of human relationships with other beings who share this unique capacity. We have used the term "reflective function" to refer to our operationalization of the mental capacities that generate mentalization (Fonagy, Target, Steele, and Steele 1998).

it has been suggested that the borderline person's experiences of interpersonal attack, neglect, and threats of abandonment may account for a perception of current relationships as attacking and neglectful