Quotes About Relationships

lower levels of coordination are optimal for secure attachment and easy temperament;

Interpersonal interpretive processes that developmentally antedate mentalization appear to govern the behavior of individuals with BPD, at least within attachment relationships.

Disorganization of attachment may be the indication of exceptionally poor mentalization.

We shall argue that attachment is not an end in itself; rather, it exists in order to produce a representational system that has evolved, we may presume, to aid human survival.

understanding of the self as a mental agent grows out of interpersonal experience, particularly primary-object relationships

1 Attachment and Reflective Function: Their Role in Self-Organization

My father told me by the time you die you'll be lucky if you have six people you called your friends to carry your coffin.I now realize and believe the truth is I thought if I had a dollar for every friend I in my life I'd be rich. The sad truth is if I had a penny for every true friend I have I wouldn't have a nickel.

WHEN I WAS 25 I THOUGHT MY DAD WAS A FOOL NOW THAT IM 30 ITS AMAZING HOW SMART HE HAS GOTTON OVER THE LAST FIVE YEARS.MY SECOND FAVORITE IS A MAN PREACHING TO ANOTHER ABOUT HOW HE BELIEVES THAT FAMILY COMES FIRST AND HOW HIS FRIEND SHOULD REMEMBER WHAT HIS PARENTS DID FOR HIM BEFORE HE DISRESPECTS THEM. WELL LETS JUST SAY I UNDERSTAND.

His portrait of a married couple — brazen male incompetence on one side, camera-shy female wisdom on the other — must have evoked in many men clusters of mental images, or vague memories, recalling the first and shaping love affair of their lives, with their mother. What Barrie thought every woman knew was something that most men knew, in their troubled unconscious.

parted from Freud, aware how much Freud disliked emotional displays, he spoke lightly about travel plans. Freud, Sachs records, understood

He commented to me," Schur remembers, "how fortunate he was, that he has found so many valuable friends." Anna had just left the room, which

Leadership is ultimately about leverage. Effective leaders leverage themselves—their ideas, energy, relationships, and influence—to create new patterns in organizations.

When you're young, you think that sex is the culmination of intimacy. Later you discover that it's barely the beginning.

No matter how close people get, they never reach each other. Including us now. Even now, there's a place where each of us is alone.

Nothing corrupts like happiness. It makes us think that since we share this moment, we can also share the past.

When people are going to be taken from you anyway, then it would be better if you had never come to care for them.

So it is not fundamentally possible to be alone. Fundamentally, man has to be with other people. If man becomes totally, totally alone, then he is lost.

I don't know if you're in love with someone. If you're not, there's something I would like to say to you, and that is that love comes to everyone. All fifteen years of my experience in life tell me that the world is organized in such a way that all of us find someone to love. Unless we work against it. So if you're not in love with anyone but would like to be, you should try to discover which part of you is working against it.

Some girls are fortunate enough to be in love with deep and intelligent boys," she says. "And then there's the rest of us, who have to make do.

Insgeheim wächst in jeder blinden, kopflosen Verliebtheit der Hass auf den Geliebten, der den einzigen Schlüssel zum Glück besitzt.

This could be one reason I've never burdened my life with children—I've thought too much about why people lose the courage to look each other in the eye.

Deep within every blind, absolute love grows a hatred toward the beloved, who now holds the only existing key to happiness. I was, as I said, only three years old, but I remember how he left. He

So I was damaged. It said so, in so many words – that it was difficult, if not impossible, for me to establish stable emotional relationships – in other words, to have any deep feelings.

I have sat in the dark and looked at them both, the child and the woman. And the feeling has become too much. It is not sorrow or joy; it is the weight and the pressure of having been brought into their lives, and of knowing that if one were ever to be separated from them, it would mean your obliteration.