Quotes About Self-awareness

The trick to staying out of resentment is maintaining better boundaries—blaming others less and holding myself more accountable for asking for what I need and want.

Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will people think? Perfectionism is a hustle.

I didn't realize it then, but looking back, those permission slips to myself were actually an attempt to belong to myself and to no one else.

In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past." Van der Kolk goes on to explain that, "The mind needs to be reeducated to feel physical sensations, and the body needs to be helped to tolerate and enjoy the comforts of touch.

know that asking for what we need and talking openly about our expectations is vulnerable.

Para evitar las críticas no digas nada, no hagas nada, no seas nada. Aristóteles

There is no us and them when it comes to numbing—we all do it. The question is to what degree. And, when we're talking about the pain surrounding addiction, it's never a self-contained storm, it's a tornado.

need to know about disappointment: Disappointment is unmet expectations, and the more significant the expectations, the more significant the disappointment. The way to address this is to be up-front about our expectations by taking the time to reality-check what we're expecting and why.

It starts to make sense that we dismiss vulnerability as weakness only when we realize that we've confused feeling with failing and emotions with liabilities. If we want to reclaim the essential emotional part of our lives and reignite our passion and purpose, we have to learn how to own and engage with our vulnerability and how to feel the emotions that come with it.

I got sucked into proving I could, rather than stepping back and asking if I should—or if I really even wanted to.

There are too many people today who instead of feeling hurt are acting out their hurt; instead of acknowledging pain, they're inflicting pain on others. Rather than risking feeling disappointed, they're choosing to live disappointed.

when we don't care at all what people think and we're immune to hurt, we're also ineffective at connecting. Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism. Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.

Remember too that sometimes we overlook our own strengths because we take them for granted and forget that they're special.

I have moved from the self-righteousness and resentment of my SFD to a new way of looking at the world.

I define calm as creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity. When I think about calm people, I think about people who can bring perspective to complicated situations and feel their feelings without reacting to heightened emotions like fear and anger.

Again, it's counterintuitive, but acknowledging uncertainty is a function of grounded confidence, and it feels like humility to me.

Owning our story can be difficult but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.

Once everyone understands their vale, we stop hustling for worthiness and lean into our gifts.

There are days when I can fight the urge to be everything to everyone, and there are days when it gets the best of me.

Unfortunately, self-trust is one of the first casualties when we fail or experience disappointment or setbacks. Whether it's conscious or not, when we're wondering how we ended up facedown in the arena, we often reach for the blanket statement "I don't trust myself anymore." We assume that we must have made a bad decision and therefore it is a fallacy to count on ourselves to deliver.

La autenticidad es la práctica diaria de librarnos de lo que creemos que deberíamos ser y abrazar en cambio lo que realmente somos.

The sorting we do to ourselves and to one another is, at best, unintentional and reflexive. At worst, it is stereotyping that dehumanizes. The paradox is that we all love the ready-made filing system, so handy when we want to quickly characterize people, but we resent it when we're the ones getting filed away.

the need for control is so strong that we'd rather have something be our fault than succumb to the bumper-sticker wisdom of "shit happens.

connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves. If I don't know and understand who I am and what I need, want, and believe, I can't share myself with you.