Quotes About Self-awareness

This book is about racial identity, something most people who are not white take for granted. They come to it early, feel it strongly, and make no apologies for it.

One of my main regrets in life is giving considerable thought to inconsiderate people.

As I was driving down Beach Blvd., I saw a building that said, "Self Storage," and I thought, "I wonder if my ego could possibly fit in just one unit.

I just realized my lips are inside out. They should be turned inwards, because I spend most of my time talking to myself.

If we allow our self-congratulatory adoration of technology to distract us from our own contact with each other, then somehow the original agenda has been lost.

I didn't like the people who just wanted to hear about the terrible things that had happened to me. But the friends who wanted to bask in my fondest memories of the Prockses made me feel special, inviting me into my own sense of knowing a right from a wrong.

If the child's unique qualities are not mirrored or supported, they are not available for her as a foundation. Instead of becoming grounded in her own nature, she adapts to what she thinks she is supposed to be, taking on a false self. For some people, this false self (which we all have to some degree) so obscures everything else that it's all they know.

Even traumas that we have pushed outside our consciousness affect us deeply. They affect our nervous systems, our bodies, our reactions to events, our choices, our feelings about ourselves and others, and many other aspects of our experience. Out of sight is not out of bodymind.

Living with a high level of emotional reactivity is hell. It's no fun for you and no fun for people around you. You feel sensitive about everything and feel like life never lets you rest. Being reactive is essentially feeling chronically overwhelmed.

It is not easy to give of yourself if you still have many unmet needs.

Authentically positive self-talk is your most important ally in the healing process. You cannot heal completely without it."1 She describes this nurturing self-talk as growing out of a close relationship with yourself, learning to become your own best friend.

Cognitively oriented therapists believe that we contribute to our own suffering by holding on to outdated beliefs and conclusions that keep us stuck in a particular story.

All too often, women fall in love with a man's speech and overlook who he actually is. If you think you might already be dating such a guy, take a step back and ask yourself: "Is my boyfriend doing what's best for me, or just doing what feels good for him?

When women begin to doubt or ignore the voice of their conscience, they become their own worst enemies. They then even wonder why love seems so elusive.

When you build a product or service, you make the call on hundreds of tiny decisions each day. If you're solving someone else's problem, you're constantly stabbing in the dark. When you solve your own problem, the light comes on. You know exactly what the right answer is.

When calm starts early, calm becomes the habit. But if you start crazy, it'll define you. You have to keep asking yourself if the way you're working today is the way you'd want to work in 10, 20, or 30 years. If not, now is the time to make a change, not "later.

It makes no sense to tell everyone to look at you if you're not ready to be looked at yet.

Other people's failures are just that: other people's failures. If

So talk like you really talk. Reveal things that others are unwilling to discuss. Be upfront about your shortcomings. Show the latest version of what you're working on, even if you're not done yet. It's OK if it's not perfect. You might not seem as professional, but you will seem a lot more genuine.

Long lists are guilt trips. The longer the list of unfinished items, the worse you feel about it. And at a certain point, you just stop looking at it because it makes you feel bad. Then you stress out and the whole thing turns into a big mess.

Don't be afraid to show your flaws.

Most people suffering from a lack of motivation will blame themselves first. "Ah, it's because I'm such a procrastinator!" "Why can't I just get myself together?" The truth, more often than not, is that you are not the problem; it's the world you're working in.

Ask yourself where you're complicit in other people's stories. If you like them, stay in those stories. If you don't, don't. You're not bound to any of it, though remember that if you want to get rid of the bad aspects of something you'll probably have to lose the good aspects, too.

Find some humility, or it will find you.