Quotes About Self-awareness

I would so hate to be a first-person character! Always on your guard, always having people read your thoughts!

I don't know how to drive a car.

Todo el mundo obliga a todo el mundo, no tanto a hacer lo que no quiere, sino más bien lo que no sabe si quiere, porque casi nadie sabe lo que no quiere, y menos aún, lo que quiere

We don't care about humiliating ourselves to ourselves, after all, no one is going to judge us and there are no witnesses.

la mirada no se domina, a menudo actúa al margen de nuestras instrucciones y de nuestras censuras, o es que bajo ese pretexto le permitimos desobedecernos.

Unhappy people often insist on trying to uncover the full magnitude of their unhappiness, or choose to investigate other people's lives as a distraction from their own.

Uma pessoa nunca sabe se o que lhe dizem é verdade, nunca há a certeza de nada que não venha de nós mesmos.

Decidió aguardar, sabedor de que la gente siempre habla al final, no puede soportar estarse callada indefinidamente y no contarse y no contar, no pavonearse un poco o no intrigar, no provocar compasión, horror o admiración, no inspirar lástima o temor, venideros o retrospectivos. Sí, la gente habla de más y sin querer, incluso cuando ha resuelto no hablar.

As pessoas relatam sem cessar e narram sem sequer se darem conta do que estão a fazer, dos incontroláveis mecanismos de insídia, equívoco e caos que põem em movimento e que se podem tornar funestos, falam sem parar dos outros e de si mesmas, e também dos outros ao falarem de si mesmas e também

Por qué habría de querernos el que señalamos nosotros con tembloroso dedo?

nadie hace nada convencido de que esté mal hecho, es sólo que en muchos momentos uno no puede tener en cuenta a los otros, ..., a veces uno no puede pensar más que en sí mismo u en el momento, no en lo que viene luego.

strong emotions can seem as if they are part of the environment rather than part of us. It's not that I was angry, we think, it's that the situation was tense. But situations are not

Want to fast-track your growth? Go directly to the people you have the hardest time with. Ask them what you're doing that's exacerbating the situation. They will surely tell you.

As "shifters" we tend to see ourselves as innocent victims – when something goes wrong, it's always because of what someone else did. Others of us have the opposite tendency: we are all too aware of the negative consequences of our own actions. In the face of this, others' contributions seem insignificant. An "absorber" tends to feel responsible for everything.

You know the problem is her—she brings out your worst. But it is your worst. It's you under pressure, you in conflict. It's here that we often have the most room to grow. When we are under stress or in conflict we lose skills we normally have, impact others in ways we don't see, are at a loss for positive strategies. We need honest mirrors in these moments, and often that role is played best by those with whom we have the hardest time.

Blame Is About Judging, and Looks Backward

You can establish an evaluation-free zone by respecting the following guidelines: share pure feelings (without judgments, attributions, or blame); save problem-solving until later; and don't monopolize.

Most of us assume that our feelings are static and nonnegotiable, and that if they are to be shared authentically, they must be shared "as is." In fact, our feelings are based on our perceptions, and our perceptions (as we have seen in the preceding three chapters) are negotiable.

Finally, we should consider the contribution system. Are we able to see our own contribution to the problem? Are we able to describe the other person's contribution without blaming? Are we aware of the ways that each of our contributions forms a reinforcing pattern that magnifies the problem? In what way does this shift how we feel?

The Identity Conversation looks inward: it's all about who we are and how we see ourselves. How does what happened affect my self-esteem, my self-image, my sense of who I am in the world? What impact will it have on my future? What self-doubts do I harbor?

As you approach these chapters, have this question marinating in the back of your mind: Why is it that when we give feedback we so often feel right, yet when we receive feedback it so often feels wrong?

We Each Know Ourselves Better Than Anyone Else Can.

As we saw in Chapter 2, often we merely trade our conclusions back and forth, and never get into the process of exploring where these views come from. You have information about yourself that the other person has no access to. That kind of information can be important; consider sharing it. And you have life experiences that are influencing what you think and why, as well as how you feel. When you tell these stories, it puts some meat onto the bones of your views.

Cuando le echamos la culpa a las circunstancias, al pasado, a nuestro prójimo o a cualquier evento de lo que nos sucede, estamos desaprovechando una enseñanza que, adecuadamente vista, tiene como razón de ser y objetivo el ayudarnos a quitar un filtro, desembarazarnos de una máscara, resquebrajar una estructura o trascender un prejuicio que nos mantenía encarcelados.