Quotes About Self-awareness

When we attempt to control people and things that we have no business controlling, we are controlled. We forfeit our power to think, feel, and act in accordance with our best interests. We frequently lose control of ourselves. Often

We don't have to take other people's behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.

Furthermore, we are not responsible for anyone else's feelings, although we are responsible for choosing to be considerate of people's feelings.

I realized that although I was saying I wanted my spouse to get better, I was really afraid of getting better and looking at my own stuff. I kept adding pressure as a way of sabotaging.

I wanted to be a victim. I continued to act like I did not have choices and that it was always everyone else's fault in the family for how I felt and reacted." More

Take responsibility for our anger. We can say: "I feel angry when you do this because …

Troubles and feelings go wild when we try to keep them caged inside. Talk about your feelings. Take responsibility for them. Feel whatever feeling you have. Nobody made you feel. Someone might have helped you feel a particular way, but you did your feeling all by yourself. Deal with it. Then, tell yourself the truth about what happened!

The less good stuff we find in ourselves, the more we seek it in others.

We cannot begin to work on ourselves, to live our own lives, feel our own feelings, and solve our own problems until we have detached from the object of our obsession.

When a codependent discontinued their relationship with a troubled person, the codependent frequently sought another troubled person and repeated the codependent behaviors with that new person. These behaviors, or coping mechanisms, seemed to prevail throughout the codependent's life—if they didn't change these behaviors.

Each person's feelings are his or her own. Nobody makes anyone feel; no one is ultimately responsible for our feelings except us, no matter how much we insist they are. People might help us feel, but they don't make us feel. People also cannot change the way we feel. Only we can do that.

But our real problems as codependents are our own characteristics—our codependent behaviors. Who's codependent? I am.

Worrying and obsessing keep us so tangled in our heads we can't solve our problems. Whenever we become attached in these ways to someone or something, we become detached from ourselves.

Real power comes from feeling our feelings, not from ignoring them. Real strength comes, not from pretending to be strong all the time, but from acknowledging our weaknesses and vulnerabilities.

If we aren't feeling, we're probably not examining the thinking that goes with it, and we don't know what ourselves are telling us. And if we don't deal with our feelings we don't change and we don't grow. We stay stuck

Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act.

We can evaluate our behavior. We can make decisions about what we need and want. We can figure out what our problems are and what we need to do to solve them.

Self-acceptance is that gentle place we get to when we make peace with who we are.

comprendí que la muerte puede ser, también,una larga conversación silenciosa con uno mismo, una múltiple sonoridad acuática, una profusión de monólogos propios y ajenos, eternos, repetidos, pero siempre originales. Como el arte. Y me sentí muy bien

Know thyself means this, that you get acquainted with what you know, and what you can do.

I have no place in my life for someone who is sure he can do everything.

I'm so bad with people I can't even win an argument with myself.

There are no excuses," he said at last. "But there are reasons. Reasons why we are what we are. Reasons why we do not have to stay that way.

I was not. I was. I am not. I care not.