Quotes About Vulnerability

We all have our security blankets in this world. Some are just sharper than others.

You're the little spoon, aren't you?

Wouldn't you leave a light on? Knowing what I knew and not knowing anything else at all, why would I want the darkness where the monsters hide? Because killers hide there too.

The front door had been secure at some point in time, I suppose, but now it usually hung ajar by a few inches, the gap?toothed grin of a dirty old man.

Everyone has something in their life, in their world, that can break them.

We all have our security blankets in this world. Some are just sharper than others." (Nightlife, Rob Thurman, 28)

Up on Cripple Creek she sends meIf I spring a leak she mends meI don't have to speak, she defends meA drunkard's dream if I ever did see one

As a result of this dependency, every child's greatest fear is abandonment. To children, abandonment means death. Second

Do you believe that people can see your human imperfections and still love you? How would you be different if you knew the people who care about you would never leave you or stop loving you — no matter what?

Self-respect, courage, and integrity look good on a man. As recovering Nice Guys chart their own

An integrated male doesn't strive to be perfect or gain the approval of others. Instead, he accepts himself just as he is, warts and all. An integrated male accepts that he is perfectly imperfect.

Later, Elizabeth revealed to me (and several of her friends) how much safer she felt when I had my feelings. She was able to hear that I was upset about the car but that I didn't think she was bad, and I wasn't going to abandon her. The fact that I had such intensity about not letting her push me away actually made her feel secure and loved. As a result, she felt safe to stay connected to me and hear my feelings about the car.

Choose one area in which you have been out of integrity. Identify your fear that keeps you from telling the truth or doing the right thing. Reveal this situation to a safe person. Then go and tell the truth or do what you have to do to make the situation right. Tell yourself you can handle it. Since telling the truth may create a crisis for you or others, have faith that everyone involved will survive this crisis.

Nice Guys have a difficult time comprehending that in general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy.

The unpredictability of not having their needs met in a timely, judicious fashion was not only frightening, it was potentially life-threatening.

It is actually a person's rough edges and human imperfections that give others something to connect with.

As Nice Guys stop seeking approval and stop trying to hide their perceived flaws, they open a door to start getting what they really want in love and life.

Beneath this facade of needlessness and wantlessness, all Nice Guys are actually extremely needy. Consequently, when they go about trying to get their needs met, Nice Guys are frequently indirect, unclear, manipulative, and controlling.

Personal power is the result of feeling fear, but not giving in to the fear. There is a solution to the helplessness and vulnerability Nice Guys feel. Recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows Nice Guys to embrace the personal power that is their birthright. Reclaiming personal power includes: •?Surrendering. •?Dwelling in reality. •?Expressing feelings. •?Facing fears. •?Developing integrity. •?Setting boundaries.

Never be afraid to expose a weakness in yourself. Exposing a weakness is the beginning of strength.

There is a virtue, I must presume, in shamelessness, since by placing on parade the things one does not know, one discovers that no one else knows either.

I try to remember that except for a very few psychopaths, most people on most days are doing the best they can." I take that for my working motto, though I remain haunted by the thought that if "a kid is just a kid," then a sixteen-year-old kid is a kid just two years away from voting.

No matter how carefully we defend ourselves, all it takes is one footprint of another real person to recall us to the endlessly interesting hazards of living relationships.

Apparently we have such an automatically positive reaction to compliments that we can fall victim to someone who uses them in an obvious attempt to win our favor.