Quotes About Vulnerability

The ultimate folly is to think that something crucial to your welfare is being taken care of for you.

You can as easily love without trusting as you can hug without embracing.

It is not necessary to be strong in every place if in the place you are vulnerable, you are loved.

What do we ask of friendship except to be taken for what we pretend to be — and without having to pretend.

As a general guideline, never marry anyone that you can't picture helping you go to the bathroom.

To learn to ask for help and guidance from people who are trustworthy,

Until I started owning the grief and rage from my childhood, the sadness and hurt and fear that I had denied all of my life, I was incapable of being honest with myself, incapable of knowing who I Truly was.

Wee, modest, crimson-tipped flow'r,Thou's met me in an evil hour;For I maun crush amang the stoureThy slender stem:To spare thee now is past my pow'r,Thou bonie gem.

Wee, sleekit, cow'rin, tim'rous beastie,O, what a panic's in thy breastie!Thou need na start awa sae hasty, Wi' bickering brattle!

Now go and brag of thy present happiness, whosoever thou art, brag of thy temperature, of thy good parts, insult, triumph, and boast; thou seest in what a brittle state thou art, how soon thou mayst be dejected, how many several ways, by bad diet, bad air, a small loss, a little sorrow or discontent, an ague, &c.; how many sudden accidents may procure thy ruin, what a small tenure of happiness thou hast in this life, how weak and silly a creature thou art.

Building trust requires talking and thinking about trust.

Many people are blind to trust, not so much to its benefits as to its nature and the practices that make it possible.

When we say that trust is an emotional skill, this implies that emotional competence is a necessary part of trust.

All trust involves vulnerability and risk, and nothing would count as trust if there were no possibility of betrayal.

Acting, the arts in general, is a magnet for the wounded of society.

In social situations we all wear masks, and keep our defenses up. It is embarrassing, after all, to reveal one's true feelings. As a seducer you must find a way to lower these resistances.

Oysters open completely when the moon is full; and when the crab sees one it throws a piece of stone or seaweed into it and the oyster cannot close again so that it serves the crab for meat. Such is the fate of him who opens his mouth too much and thereby puts himself at the mercy of the listener. Leonardo

talking endlessly about [ourselves] is eminently anti-seductive, revealing not self-sufficiency but insecurity.

Remember: When searching for suckers, always look for the dissatisfied, the unhappy, the insecure. Such people are riddled with weaknesses and have needs that you can fill. Their neediness is the groove in which you place your thumbnail and turn them at will.

Las vícti- mas correctas son aquellas en las que puedes llenar un vacío, las que ven en ti algo exótico. A menudo están aisladas o son al menos un tanto infelices (a causa tal vez de recientes circunstancias adversas), o se les puede llevar  con facilidad  a ese punto,  porque la persona total- mente satisfecha es casi imposible de seducir.

When you are weaker, there is nothing to be gained by fighting a useless fight. No one comes to help the weak—by doing so they would only put themselves in jeopardy. The weak are alone and must submit. Fighting gives you nothing to gain but martyrdom, and in the process a lot of people who do not believe in your cause will die.

Los seductores prefieren seleccionar sus posibilidades. Tanto como sea posible, persiguen a gente que delata alguna vulnerabilidad a ellos, y evitan a la que no pueden emocionar. Dejar en paz a quienes son inaccesibles a ti es una senda sensata; no puedes seducir a todos. Por otra parte, busca activamente a la presa que reaccione de la manera correcta. Esto volverá mucho más placenteras y satisfactorias tus seducciones.

We don't say what we feel even when it would be appropriate, and we fail to set boundaries to people's harmful behavior. We find it hard to ask for a raise or a promotion or the respect due to us. Losing our bold spirit, a positive form of aggression, is losing a deep part of our self, and it is inevitably painful.

As children our minds were remarkably flexible. We could learn at a rate that far surpasses our adult capacities. We can attribute much of the source of this power to our feelings of weakness and vulnerability. Sensing our inferiority in relation to those older than us, we felt highly motivated to learn. We were also genuinely curious and hungry for new information. We were open to the influence of parents, peers, and teachers.