Quotes About Vulnerability

We can't ever allow ourselves to get into the situation where we believe we don't need to worship God. We must not think for a moment that nothing can shake us—that we don't need God and we can't fail. We must not have a false sense of security and suppose we don't need to pour ourselves out before the Lord in praise and empty ourselves before Him in humble worship. We cannot imagine for even an instant that God's rules don't apply to us.

To know you are safe is to know you create your reality. Feeling safe does not mean to 'not feel vulnerable' - quite the opposite. To truly feel safe is to freely allow the feeling of vulnerability. This is to know that vulnerability is not a problem to be solved; vulnerability is a state of expansion – a state of growth. To realize this is to rejoice in the discovery and feeling of vulnerability.

Most men complimented my sexual vigor, thinking I owed it to them. All of them credited themselves afterwards, but the dour clown just lay there. For a moment, I thought I loved him.

Our society seems to say that a real man needs and wants nobody.

We all need to look into the dark side of our nature -- that's where the energy is, the passion. People are afraid of that because it holds pieces of us we're busy denying.

About every six to eight months, I run into a man who astounds me sexually, but between escapades, I'm celibate, which I don't think is any big deal. After two unsuccessful marriages, I find myself keeping my guard up, along with my underpants.

Whatever the surface appearances, most human beings come equipped with convoluted emotional machinery. With intimacy, the wreckage starts to show, damage rendered in the course of passions colliding like freight trains on the same track.

It's hard to keep passing myself off as a grown-up when a piece of me is still six years old and utterly at the mercy of authority.

I showered and shampooed. I even shaved the requisite legs and armpits just in case I fell in a swoon and one or the other was exposed to view. (Kinsey Millhone)

In her presence, I felt as dainty and feminine as a side of beef. When I opened my mouth, I was worried I would moo.

After two unsuccessful marriages, I find myself keeping my guard up, along with my underpants.

about Abbie's deception. People did you in. People turned on you in a heartbeat

There's a certain class of people who will do you in and then remain completely mystified by the depth of your pain.

As usual, when confronted with heights, my greatest fear was the irresistible urge to fling myself off.

What makes these cases so hard to prosecute is the victims don't want to believe they've been deceived. The victims all become dependent on the crook who's cheating them.

En cuanto alguien sabe qué cosas te importan, también sabe cómo herirte.

no one can dance with a partner and not touch each other's raw spots. We must know what these raw spots are and be able to speak about them in a way that pulls our partner closer to us.

Psychiatrist Jonathan Shay in his book on the trauma of combat, Odysseus in America, reminds us that there are "two momentous human universals": that we are all born helpless and dependent, and that we are all mortal and we know it. The only healthy way to deal with this vulnerability is to reach out and hold each other. Then, calmed and strengthened, we can walk out into the world

Emotion comes from a Latin word emovere, to move. We talk of being "moved" by our emotions, and we are "moved" when those we love show their deeper feelings to us. If partners were to reconnect, they indeed had to let their emotions move them into new ways of responding to each other. My clients had to learn to take risks, to show the softer sides of themselves, the sides they learned to hide in the Demon Dialogues.

The demand-withdraw pattern is not just a bad habit, it reflects a deeper underlying reality: such couples are starving emotionally. They are losing the source of their emotional sustenance. They feel deprived. And they are desperate to regain that nurturance.

When we feel safely linked to our partners, we more easily roll with the hurts they inevitably inflict, and we are less likely to be aggressively hostile when we get mad at them.

effective dependency" and how being able, from "the cradle to the grave," to turn to others for emotional support is a sign and source of strength.

Love is not the icing on the cake of life. It is a basic primary need, like oxygen or water. Once we understand and accept this, we can more easily get to the heart of relationship problems.

When that person is emotionally unavailable or unresponsive, we face being out in the cold, alone and helpless. We are assailed by emotions — anger, sadness, hurt, and above all, fear. This is not so surprising when we remember that fear is our built-in alarm system; it turns on when our survival is threatened. Losing connection with our loved one jeopardizes our sense of security. The alarm goes off in the brain's amygdala, or Fear Central