Quotes About Betrayal

Only when the betrayed partner feels emotionally met will he or she be able to listen to explanations without hearing them as justifications.

Often, when one partner insists that they don't yet feel acknowledged, even as the one who hurt them insists they feel terrible, it is because the response is still more shame than guilt, and therefore self-focused. In the aftermath of betrayal, authentic guilt, leading to remorse, is an essential repair tool. A sincere apology signals a care for and commitment to the relationship, a sharing of the burden of suffering

Steven Stosny observes that "if loss of power was the problem in intimate betrayal, then anger would be the solution. But the great pain in intimate betrayal has little to do with loss of power. Perceived loss of value is what causes your pain—you feel less lovable.

It is no longer a sin against God, a breaking of a family alliance, a muddying of the bloodline, or a dispersion of resources and inheritances. At the core of betrayal today is a violation of trust: We expect our partner to act according to our shared set of assumptions, and we base our own behavior on that.

Secrecy is the number one organizing principle of an infidelity. An affair always lives in the shadow of the primary relationship, hoping never to be discovered. The secrecy is precisely what intensifies the erotic charge. "Sex and subterfuge make a delicious cocktail,"7 writes journalist Julia Keller.

By talking about sexual alchemy, I want to clarify that affairs sometimes involve sex and sometimes not, but they are always erotic.

She is his selection, part time. You know the story too! Look, When it is over he places her, Like a phone, back on the hook. —Anne Sexton, "You All Know the Story of the Other Woman

Affairs are an act of betrayal and they are also an expression of longing and loss.

A Window into the Human Heart Affairs have a lot to teach us about relationships. They open the door to a deeper examination of values, human nature, and the power of eros.

For me, infidelity includes one or more of these three constitutive elements: secrecy, sexual alchemy, and emotional involvement.

Emotional involvement is the third element that may play a role in infidelity. Most affairs register an emotional component, to one degree or another.

People, they all have the word goodness on lips a bloody knife between their teeth.

Assassin! Misérable! Tu m'as tuée et maintenant tu ne veux pas que je m'empoisonne!

Deocamdat?, nu avem decât siguranÈ›a unei autenticit??i; aceea a inautenticit??ii noastre. A fi autentic înseamn? a te tr?da fa?? de o sum? infinit? de tr?iri posibile.

That's right! Run him down! Run down everybody! Everyone is a fake to you!

I'll be waiting to welcome you with that "my old pal" stuff, and give you the glad hand, and at the first good chance I get stab you in the back.

For in other ways a woman is full of fear, defenseless, dreads the sight of cold steel; but, when once she is wronged in the matter of love, no other soul can hold so many thoughts of blood.

If I have played the Judas, who has been my Christ that I have played the Judas with? Was it Thad Stevens? Was it Wendell Phillips? Was it Charles Sumner? These are the men that stop and compare themselves with the Savior; and everybody that differs with them in opinion, and to try to stay and arrest their diabolical and nefarious policy, is to be denounced as a Judas.

You're one cold motherfucker. At least Mathis doesn't make you feel like shit." "That's so you don't see the knife coming. I'm honest.

He's a particular kind of sociopath. The kind that makes a great politician. He makes you think he loves you until you stand in his way. And then when he does something to fuck you over, he makes you think it's your fault." "And you know this from experience?

Cray, I've seen enough turkey shoots to know one when I see it. You set that little fucker up to dangle in the wind like a pro.

My God, I'm here to help these people screw the President of the United States.

In the summer of 1979 another boyfriend, Adam Russell, completed his language degree at Oxford and decided to spend a year travelling. He left unspoken the fact that he hoped the friendship between himself and Diana could be renewed and developed upon his return. When he arrived home a year later it was too late. A friend told him: "You've only got one rival, the Prince of Wales.

Andrew Neiderman