Quotes About Defensiveness

Ego takes everything personally. Emotion arises, defensiveness, perhaps even aggression. Are you defending the truth? No, the truth, in any case, needs no defense.

watch out for any kind of defensiveness within you, What are you defending? an illusionary identity, an image in your mind,a fictional entity

Whenever she was unhappy she felt herself at bay against a pitiless world, and a kind of animal secretiveness possessed her.

In a person who is open to experience each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system, without being distorted by any process of defensiveness.

It is my conceit to expose myself to reproach only from others, never from myself.

Whenever we get defensive or go emotionally up and down, this is a sign that we are attached to a self-image.

The offended ones feel the need to offend back those who they think have offended them, creating defensiveness on the part of the presumed offenders, which often becomes a new offensive—ad infinitum. There seems to be no way out of this self-defeating and violent Ping-Pong game—except growing up spiritually.

Should I get you a shovel, so you can dig that hole deeper?

She had nothing against any of the other guests, but once she started she saw no way to stop. There was nothing to do but turn the hose against every arriving guest. No one coming out of the house to reason with her was safe either.

quienes le trataban de forma hostil lo hacían debido a su propia debilidad.

client openness versus defensiveness, change talk versus sustain talk, is very much a product of the therapeutic relationship. "Resistance" and motivation occur in an interpersonal context.

The worst-tempered people I`ve ever met were the people who knew they were wrong.

The worst-tempered people I've ever met were people who knew they were wrong.

The worst tempered people I have ever met were those who knew that they were wrong.

When things get personal, we need to resist the natural male instinct to run for cover, man the defenses, or--worst of all--reach for the big guns. Much better to set aside our natural defensiveness and focus on listening well even though we feel under attack. Because we're probably not.

How unfair, he thought; I can close my mouth whenever I like, as tight as I like, and what has a mouth to say? It is there for taking in nourishment, yet it is well defended, but ears - ears are a prey to every onslaught.

Several overriding issues emerge from all this research. White people tend to have a sense that racism is a thing of the past, and when minorities of colour bring up issues of racism they are perceived as bringing in racialization where none existed before, hence the defensiveness and anger with which white people react during discussions of race and racism.

The proud do not change to improve, but defend their position by rationalizing. Repentance means change, and it takes a humble person to change.

Never show anger, ill temper, or vengefulness, all disruptive emotions that will make people defensive. In the politics of large groups, welcome adversity as a chance to show the charming qualities of magnanimity and poise. Let others get flustered and upset—the contrast will redound to your favor. Never whine, never complain, never try to justify yourself.

When you become defensive, blame others, and do not accept and surrender to the moment, your life meets resistance. Any time you encounter resistance, recognize that if you force the situation, the resistance will only increase. You don't want to stand rigid like a tall oak that cracks and collapses in the storm. Instead, you want to be flexible, like a reed that bends with the storm and survives.

When people of color talk racism, Whites seem to interpret statements as a personal accusation, and rather than reach out to understand the content, respond in a defensive and protective posture. In many cases, even statements of racial facts/statistics such as definitions of racism, disparities in income and education, segregation of neighborhoods, hate crime figures, and so forth arouse defensiveness in many Whites.

When Whites feel wrongly accused, they may respond with anger and engage in a counterattack when a racial topic arises. It appears that anger in race talk stems from two sources: (1) feeling unfairly accused (defensiveness) and/or (2) being told their substance, stance, or position taken is wrong. When back talk occurs, many Whites may feel offended and perceive the allegations as a provocation or an attack that requires retaliation.

In order to deflect the perceived criticism, trainees may directly or indirectly attack the content of the communication (message) and/or the credibility of the communicator. When confronted with a defensive challenge by trainees, facilitators of race talk may also become defensive when they find that their message is being invalidated or that their credibility is being assailed.

can stay stuck for years, or even lifetimes, in situations that cause us pain because we'd rather defend these nontruths than upset or disappoint anybody, our own inner critics included. We'd rather do what's expected of us than give ourselves permission to be, do, and have what feels good and right and awesome.