Quotes About Understanding

It's amazing how right you can be about a person you don't know; it's only the people you do know who confuse you.

I felt experienced without feeling that I, personally, had been through anything.

It's amazing how right you can sometimes be about a person you don't know; it's only the people you do know who confuse you.

it is still the case that he "can look in her eyes and disappear." He may not know how to live with her, but he will always know he loves her

We do not just have an idea of how someone else feels; we actually feel that way ourselves to some extent.

It is painful to imagine what would have happened if I had been the sort to have shouted at Rob to shut up and get back to bed. He probably would have done just that, feeling abandoned in a dangerous world. But he would not have slept. His intuitive mind would have elaborated on the experience for hours, including probably deciding he was somehow to blame. With sensitive children, physical blows or traumas aren't required to make them afraid of the dark.

But what does this system really do? It takes in everything about a situation and then automatically compares the present to what has been normal and usual in the past and what should be expected in the future. If there is a mismatch, the system makes us stop and wait until we understand the new circumstance. To me this is a very significant part of being intelligent. So I prefer to give it a more positive name: the automatic pause-to-check system.

This greater awareness of the subtle tends to make you more intuitive, which simply means picking up and working through information in a semiconscious or unconscious way. The result is that you often "just know" without realizing how.

clear thinking find that unless people have some emotional reason to learn something, they do not learn it very well or at all. This is why tests are given—to motivate learners to have that thrill of a good score or distress of a poor one, and we have found that

parents to read, since even highly sensitive parents will

Again, when you can only watch behaviors, sensitivity is not easy to separate from shyness, fearfulness, or in young children, just plain being difficult.

was finally living a fantasy I had cherished for years. Of course, I got sick and hardly enjoyed a minute of the trip. At the time, I thought I must be neurotically robbing myself of my big moment. Now, understanding this trait, I see that the trip was just too exciting.

Research on parenting, for example, continually finds the elusive quality of "sensitivity" to be the key in raising children well. Turning

The pursuit of wholeness is really a kind of circling closer and closer through different meanings, different voices. One never arrives, yet gets a better and better idea of that which is at the center.

unless people have some emotional reason to learn something, they do not learn it very well or at all.

Beware of talking so much that your child becomes quiet because he cannot think of things to say as fast as you can. You tend to leap (or speak) first and look a little later. Your child is thinking over what you have said and what to say back, while you may have already changed the subject. Leave silences.

Erityisherkät voivat tiivistää kaikki etikettisäännöt kolmen sanan sääntöön: vähennä toisen ylivirittyneisyyttä. (Tai kahteen sanaan: ole ystävällinen.)

When the extraverted were with someone who was highly introverted, they liked not having to be so cheerful. And the introverted found conversing with the extraverted "a breath of fresh air." The picture we gain from Thorne is that each type contributes something to this world that is equally important.

This book may even increase your annoyance a bit as you begin to appreciate that you are a minority whose rights to have less stimulation are generally ignored.

Couples in the better relationships understand the perpetual problems differently; they dialogue about them rather than fighting over them.

when being watched, timed, or evaluated, we often cannot display our competence. Our deeper processing may make it seem that at first we are not catching on, but with time we understand and remember more than others.

Like so many of the bits of conversation I recall, the meanings hidden in childhood only become clear now that I write them down. Most were just small lessons, people trying to prove their virtue to each other, but because I wasn't supposed to be listening, I made things out to be more important than they were. Maybe that's why our childhoods seem so big, so resonant, while our adult years slip by like fish in the river Byk.

I know what men want. Men want to be really, really close to someone who will leave them alone.

Education is...A form of self-delusion.