Quotes About Understanding

I looked for themes and underlying principles across lectures," and "I went over mistakes until I was certain I understood them." They were studying to learn, not just to ace the test. And, actually, this was why they got higher grades—not because they were smarter or had a better background in science.

parents, teachers, and coaches pass on a growth mindset not by having a belief sitting in their heads but by embodying a growth mindset in their deeds: the way they praise (conveying the processes that lead to learning), the way they treat setbacks (as opportunities for learning), and the way they focus on deepening understanding (as the goal of learning).

En lugar de sumergirse en una memorización irreflexiva del material del curso, repasaban cada tema hasta estar seguros de comprenderlo bien. Estudiaban para aprender, no para sacar un sobresaliente en el examen. Y precisamente por eso sacaron mejores notas, no porque fuesen más inteligentes o porque tuviesen una base más sólida en ciencias.

Con frecuencia, un buen negociador es aquel que comprende los intereses de la otra persona e intenta servirlos también.

Relationship expert David Wile says that choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates. The trick is to acknowledge each other's limitations, and build from there.

Instead of plunging into unthinking memorization of the course material, they said: "I looked for themes and underlying principles across lectures," and "I went over mistakes until I was certain I understood them." They were studying to learn, not just to ace the test. And, actually, this was why they got higher grades—not because they were smarter or had a better background in science.

If you are not aware of the story pattern you are living, the story plays you.

Bookish people, who are often maladroit people, persist in thinking they can master any subtlety so long as it's been shaped into acceptable expository prose.

This child did not need to "change his behaviors." We needed to understand his behaviors and what they suggested as the probable underlying reason for the behaviors. We needed to remember that behaviors are a message, a symptom—not a diagnosis.

Understanding without vengeance, reparation without retaliation, are possible only if we are willing to stop justifying our own position.

Successful partners extend to each other the same self-forgiving ways of thinking we extend to ourselves: They forgive each other's missteps as being due to the situation but give each other credit for the thoughtful and loving things they do. If one partner does something thoughtless or is in a crabby mood, the other tends to write it off as a result of events that aren't the partner's fault:

Peres took a third course. "When a friend makes a mistake," he said, "the friend remains a friend, and the mistake remains a mistake.

Without missing a beat I continue to play our black Baldwin Acrosonic spinet piano and say, "Not now! Mommy and Daddy are working!" The girls get the message and withdraw.

There's some who believe it's wicked, but God made us all, and if there's some he made a little different, I daresay he had a reason for it.

How I love them. How good they are. They endure endless hours of me talking about the future. They keep me near and at the same time bid me farewell. That is what real love is.

Loving someone doesn't mean that you only care for them when you feel like it. It means that you forgive them when they mess up.

I think we did love each other. In our own way. But we simply didn't love each other enough.

However, the truth of the matter is that just because you love someone it doesn't mean that they're right for you.

There's already someone that I love very much. I just never knew quite how much until it was too late.

Sometimes love isn't enough, or it takes different forms. You have to work hard at relationships.

What do women want?" Sigmund Freud cried. Books and cats are a good start.

Guys with nice person names try to be sympathetic.

The only evil is that I don't mind that it happened.

I never needed eyes to see — never. I simply needed vision and belief.