Quotes About Understanding

To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.

The people who matter will recognize who you are.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.

I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

There is a universal urge for intimacy, for trading subjectivities, in communication. For Telepathy. Our desire for it tells us about what we wish to be: truly intersubjective beings.

I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

If you wish to converse with me, define your terms.

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

We always speak well when we manage to be understood.

When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.

It is a rare and valuable tonic to share insights, dreams and concerns with people whom you have never met. The sole purpose for such exchanges is simply to give light to one another.

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.

Neither you nor I speak English, but there are some things that can be said only in English.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.

Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

Always hear the 'Yes' in the 'No'.

Empathy before education.

Understanding has very specific component parts. These component parts are affinity, reality and communication.

Conscious communication is called Turiya-when you are totally effective, totally understood and totally truthful.

Most of the time, communication gets confused with conversation. In fact, the two are distinctly different.

Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating.