Quotes About Understanding

Why do teenagers make bad decisions?" he asks, not waiting for an answer "Because all the neurons are there, but they are not fully insulated. Until the whole circuit is insulated, that circuit, although capable, will not be instantly available to alter impulsive behavior as it's happening. Teens understand right and wrong, but it takes them time to figure it out.

She's really listening, hearing what you said and asking what it means, digging deeper," says Nili Metuki, design researcher. "She doesn't let things stay unclear, even when they're uncomfortable. Especially when they're uncomfortable

Embrace the Messenger:

Concordances happen when one person can react in an authentic way to the emotion being projected in the room," Marci says. "It's about understanding in an empathic way, then doing something in terms of gesture, comment, or expression that creates a connection.

master coaching is something more evanescent: more art than science. It exists in the space between two people, in the warm, messy game of language, gesture, and expression.

Great teachers focus on what the student is saying or doing," he says, "and are able, by being so focused and by their deep knowledge of the subject matter, to see and recognize the inarticulate stumbling, fumbling effort of the student who's reaching toward mastery, and then connect to them with a targeted message.

As football coach Tom Martinez likes to say, "It's not how fast you can do it. It's how slow you can do it correctly." Second, going slow helps the practicer to develop something even more important: a working perception of the skill's internal blueprints—the shape and rhythm of the interlocking skill circuits.

the most important moments in conversation happen when one person is actively, intently listening.

There's an accelerated change to the relationship that happens when you're able to really listen, to be incredibly present with the person.

There is as much wisdom in listening as there is in speaking - and that goes for all relationships, not just romantic ones.

It is never too late to be wise.

No matter what, that friendship is real. No matter how much you dissect it, or talk about it, or analyze it, it'll always be real.

people act badly, it is easy to just call them negative or derogatory names. But once you look at their scans and realize they might have a damaged or toxic scan, it gives you more understanding and empathy.

The brain and the eye may have a contractual relationship in which the brain has agreed to believe what they eye sees, but in return the eye has agreed to look for what the brain wants.

Small children cannot say what they want to be later because they don't really understand what later means.

Despite the third word of the title, this is not an instruction manual that will tell you anything useful about how to be happy. Those books are located in the self-help section two aisles over, and once you've bought one, done everything it says to do, and found yourself miserable anyway, you can always come back here to understand why.

People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.

A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt 'Don't bother me - I've got important work to do.'

people's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues. the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like

Benjamin Franklin put it well: "Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.

I hope you will not listen to people who try to talk you out of your pain or show you ways to fix it. Because if your try too hard to fix pain, it only takes longer to heal.

On job of parents - " Their job is to love you, protect you as best as they can, try to understand you, and enjoy your laughter. I hope they will give you both roots and wings. When they give you roots, you will feel safe, loved, and secure, knowing they genuinely want to understand the person you are. When they give you wings, you will feel free to think whatever you want to think, free to explore the world of your heart and mind and the world outside".

Children don't learn from lessons or teaching. They learn from what we honestly have to say about our feelings, and they learn from our behavior.

If we feel guilty about some aspect of our sexuality, I hope we can understand where that's coming from within ourselves and take responsibility for it. But feeling guilty is not taking responsibility; that comes with understanding the true origins of our guilt. And when that happens, it makes sexuality less burdensome for our children. It may not heal the scars and might not undo the damage, but it will certainly open some doors in their lives.