Quotes About Understanding

Listen to your heart, it speaks, hear its words

Kendall had asked about her father.

Excluding your partner's perspective and insisting on your own, no matter how you put it, implies that being right is more important to you than how your partner feels and more important than the well-being of your relationship.

Protection involves caring about her emotions more than the content of what she says. You can disagree with the content, as long as you value her.

How Do You Make It Hard for Your Partner to Give You What You Want?

Be there with your partner's feelings. Don't ignore them, try to "fix it," or try to talk about it or drag him or her out of it.

This is an important point about parenting, too. You're not going to help your sons and daughters by telling them that they shouldn't feel the way they do. You'll help them by being in the emotion with them for a few moments while they work their own way out of it.

The bottom line is: Be there with her. Don't ignore it; don't "fix" it, tell her what to do, or try to drag her out of it. If you're just there with her a short time, the two of you can usually step out of the puddle together.

nothing soothes fear and shame like connection.

Women, the men in your life will definitely be more loving, compassionate, and nurturing if you can understand and accept their vulnerability to shame and reduce the ways you trigger it.

Be at your best when your partner is at his or her worst.

How Could You Make It Easier?

Developing the ability to experience the world through your partner's eyes, while holding on to your own perspective, may be the single most important skill in intimate relationships.

The only limit to the energy available to us is the limits of our understanding.

Cassie. I know some things," said Mama. "What things?" "I know you watch me all the time," said Mama. I started to shake my head, but Mama stopped me. "I saw you in the night, watching. I saw you watching me with the goslings. I know you're afraid." "Grandfather told you," I whispered. "He didn't have to tell me," Mama said. "I'm smart, you know.

Do you like children?" asked Cassie, staring at Grandfather. Grandfather took a spoonful of soup. "Do you? Like children?" asked Cassie again. Sarah reached out her hand and put it on Cassie's arm to stop her talk. "Don't know many," said Grandfather. "Do you like the ones you know?" "No," said Grandfather. Cassie was surprised at Grandfather's answer. Her mouth fell open.

Not a good time for him to be sick, is it? The wedding and all," said Papa. "There's never a good time," said Mama. I poured orange juice and handed it to Jack. He shook his head. "Come on, Jack," said Grandfather, picking him up. "We'll rock in the chair. We could, in fact, rock all through the wedding. They don't need us." "Sing," said Jack. "I was waiting for that," said Papa, grinning. Grandfather sighed.

I want most of all for you to forgive Grandfather. I want you to forgive Grandfather so I can grow up and be just like you.

What happened last night was my fault," I said. "I put up the rope, Sarah. I must have done it wrong." "Fault?" said Sarah. "Oh, Caleb, I want you to listen to me. There comes a time when fault doesn't matter. Things happen. And we can't blame ourselves--or someone else--forever." I heard a noise behind me, and saw Papa standing there, Cassie beside him. I knew he had heard Sarah's words.

Dogs speak words, but only poets and children Hear.

I must have intuitively known even then, though, that if you ask a certain type of guy about himself, it's as good as winding a wind-up toy.

Didn't say it was easy. Said it was simple. Some of the simplest things aren't easy at all.

Daily scripture reading is like maintaining a healthy diet ... When we read and meditate on the Bible, the Holy Spirit strengthens our faith and nourishes us with a deeper understanding of God's will for our lives. We may not remember everything we read, but our hearts will glow with good health.

Love is when you fry the other person's bacon even if you're a vegetarian.