Quotes About Understanding

One of the most important social skills you need to learn is the ability to connect with people instantly.

En el espíritu de Jung, la actitud más útil y curativa a adoptar cuando se trata de la sombra es una de amor y aceptación. Sé curioso pero amable. Tu objetivo al identificar la (posible) sombra de alguien no es atraparlos, hacer que se les acerque o descubrir un botón que puedas presionar para tu propio beneficio.

By practicing compassion, you destroy all those artificial barriers and you truly understand that we all bleed red.

Yes, AND…" reinforces emotions. When you use "Yes, AND…" you inevitably end up sending the right emotional signals to the person you're conversing with. Whatever they are conveying, you are agreeing with. You become an ally. You become somebody that they can trust.

A lot of people talk, but they really are not talking to or hearing each other. They're talking to what that person represents. They just talk and wait for their turn to speak while pretending to listen, not bothering to truly hone in and listen to the other person. In other words, it's all about you. As

By keeping an eye out for hints that people leave for the reactions they want, you can increase the likelihood that your conversations will be longer, more emotionally engaging, and lead to where you want them to go.

Eye contact is a gateway to interpersonal intimacy.

Show appropriate levels of emotional reaction. If you're able to do this properly, this lets them know that you care about what they're talking about. Also, what they are saying is as important to you as it is to them.

strategically using your reactions, you can shift the direction to a middle ground that is more acceptable to both of you, and eventually to a topic that you want.

about others sharing something with you and being simultaneously being affected by what you share. You acknowledge the ideas and the information that they're sharing so that they become emotionally engaged.

Small talk allows us to have entire conversations where a lot is said, but at the same time, nothing at all is said.

Si no eres consciente de cómo puedes proyectar tus propias necesidades, miedos, suposiciones y prejuicios en los demás, tus observaciones y conclusiones sobre los demás no serán gran cosa. De hecho, es posible que simplemente hayas descubierto una forma indirecta de aprender sobre ti mismo y el equipaje cognitivo y emocional que tú dejas ver.

Curiosity is a highly undervalued skill because of the value it makes other people feel.

Si alguien con quien interactúas responde a tus preguntas felizmente pero no toma un descanso para preguntar cómo estás, entonces ese alguien debe callarse un poco. Si ese alguien eres tú, tú eres quien debe callarse.

When you guess, you're still stuck with your own personal biases and stereotypes. Understanding can only come from actually experiencing or viewing things from another person's truly distinct perspective.

Compassion, in an ideal sense, is your ability to put yourself in other people's shoes regardless of what they look like, regardless of what they believe, regardless of whether they believe in God or not, or which god they believe in, and regardless of whether they're male, female, or patriotic. As long as they're human beings, the ideal vision of compassion is being able to feel other people's pain.

The third story integrates elements of both stories, but casts no blame on either party.

Two monologues do not make a dialogue." - Jeff Daly

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." - Dale Carnegie

For most, a good conversation isn't necessarily about chemistry or flow—it's about being able to share and articulate their feelings and emotions. It's about the self-interest of allowing other people to see their inner greatness.

Acknowledge the importance of what they're saying. This means that what is important to them has an emotional impact on you. Remember, people are always looking to be acknowledged, appreciated and respected.

if you give them the opportunity to create a three-dimensional identity for themselves, you might find aspects of them that you actually enjoy or admire—or at least defensible justification for why they are the way they are.

Emotional intelligence is knowing and perceiving the emotions you feel and why you feel them. You are able to put a label on your emotional state and find its cause and effect. By extension, emotional intelligence is being able to read other people's emotions accurately and deduce the reasons for them.

When you start thinking, "Why did she say that?" and "What made him do that?" instead of immediately reacting, that's the beginning of your path to emotional intelligence.