Quotes About Understanding

Estaba preparada para tratar con un compañero o incluso con una inspectora. Para quien no estaba preparada era para Dimitri. Reventó la puerta como si esperase encontrarnos, y en ese terrible momento, con él furioso como una tormenta, entendí por qué Mason lo había llamado 'dios'. • capítulo 9

You can't help the way you feel.

If you're on the path of right, and someone crosses it with wrong, you don't need to turn. Build a bridge over their path and continue on your way.

Don't get so upset about people worrying about you. It means they care. If enough of us were like that, there'd be a lot less pain in the world.

Se le credenze di qualcuno non fanno del male al prossimo, non credo che quel qualcuno debba essere punito.

What matters is that someone—that you—know me that well. When a person can see into your soul, it's hard. It forces you to be open. Vulnerable. It's much easier being with someone who's just more of a casual friend.

Amantium irae amoris integratio est.'" Lovers' quarrels are a part of love.

There are none among us who have not been, even for a moment, cruel to those whom we love most, as if unable, in that moment, to shoulder any longer the magnificent weight and burden, the responsibility, of that love.

I could not even ask myself how in the fuzzy hell I got here, because I knew precisely how it happened, year by year.

Sometimes you put yourself in a place in your life when a dog is the best company you can have.

They, especially, taught me that you can't go through life not liking people because they didn't have to work as hard or come as far as you did. And who knows, maybe if I had bothered to get to know them better, maybe they had. Maybe they just didn't wear it like some bullshit badge of honor.

And, thought it is far too late, I must say how sorry I am for letting my feelings for my father keep me for so long from his people, from my grandmother, especially. I am told she loved without condition, loved my mother and love us boys. I never gave her a reason. It was just the kind of person she was.

Moonshine. I get it now.

They, especially, taught me that you can't go through life not liking people because they didn't have to work as hard or come as far as you did.

the less difficult you are, the fewer the number of difficult people you'll have to deal with.

Whenever you speak to be understood, your communications will inevitably have an influence on your problem people. If they become defensive, be willing to temporarily drop what you are saying and totally focus on their reaction to it. Do your best to fully understand by backtracking, clarifying, summarizing, and confirming.

The next time a spouse or friend says something in an attacking manner, rather than defend against the attack, blend with the intent by saying, "I appreciate that you care about me, and I want to clear the air between us." There's a real possibility that the person will stop in his or her tracks and calm down and that real communication will ensue.

Another intent behind behavior is to get along with people. This is necessary if you want to create and develop relationships. When there are people with whom you want to get along, you may be less assertive as you put their needs above your own. If getting along is your top priority and people ask where you would like to go for lunch, you might respond, "Where would you like to go?

person in the get along mode will be considerate of the opinions and feelings of others.

When people have the same priorities, a misunderstanding or conflict is highly unlikely

Conflict occurs when the emphasis in a relationship is on the differences between people. The more divided you seem to be, the sooner you fall.

You get along better with people when the emphasis is on similarities between you. The difference between conflict with a friend and conflict with a difficult person is that with a friend the conflict is tempered by the common ground you share. Success in communication depends on finding common ground before attempting to redirect the interaction toward a new outcome. Obviously, reducing differences is essential to your success in dealing with people you can't stand.

speed. And you blend conceptually with your words. But as natural as it is to blend with people that you like or with people that you share an objective with, it is equally natural not to blend with people whom you perceive as difficult. And the failure to blend has serious consequences because without blending, the differences between you become the basis for conflict.

Blending always precedes redirecting, whether you're listening to understand or speaking to be understood. Only after establishing some rapport with your difficult people through blending will you be able to redirect the interaction and change the trajectory toward a worthwhile outcome.