Quotes About Self-compassion

Say to yourself often, "I'm doing the best I can.

A couple of hours later, I said to myself, "I think we could change a few things. Let's adjust this, and let's adjust that." I refused to criticize myself in any way. If I had come off the podium and begun berating myself with, "Oh, you were so awful. You made this mistake, and you made that mistake," then I would have dreaded my second lecture. As it was, the second one was better than the first, and by the sixth one, I was feeling like a pro.

These people feel guilty because they believe that they have failed in some way. However, they usually accept everything as a guilt trip in one way or another because it's another way to make themselves wrong.

What was done in the past is done, and it is over now. But this is present time, and you now have the opportunity to treat yourself the way you wish to be treated. A frightened child needs comforting, not scolding. Scolding yourself only makes you more frightened, and there is nowhere to turn.

Don't judge yourself for not being with the person or doing enough for the person while he or she was alive.

10 Ways to Love Yourself 1. Probably the most important key is to stop criticizing yourself.

2. We must also stop scaring ourselves. Many of us terrorize ourselves with frightful thoughts and make situations worse than they are.

We may habitually think the same thought over and over so that it does not seem we are choosing the thought. But we did make the original choice. We can refuse to think certain thoughts. Look how often you have refused to think a positive thought about yourself. Well, you can also refuse to think a negative thought about yourself.

When we set standards that are much too high for where we are at this moment, standards we cannot possibly achieve right now, then we will always fail.

LOVING THE SELF. I find that when we really love and accept and APPROVE OF OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE, then everything in life works.

You never do anything right." "It's all your fault." How often have you said this to yourself? "You are wonderful." "I love you." How often do you tell yourself this?

When someone stabs you it's not your fault that you feel pain.

She was stuffing her innards back. Sewing herself up, putting her skin, her make-up, her party frock back on.

The only reason I have lived so long is that I let go of my past. Shut the door on grief on regret on remorse. If I let them in, just one self-indulgent crack, whap, the door will fling open gales of pain ripping through my heart blinding my eyes with shame breaking cups and bottles knocking down jars shattering windows stumbling bloody on spilled sugar and broken glass terrified gagging until with a final shudder and sob I shut the heavy door. Pick up the pieces one more time.

Don't blame yourself; this isn't your fault

When you learn how to re-parent yourself, you will stop attempting to complete the past by setting up others to be your parents.

Healthy shame is the basic metaphysical boundary for human beings. It is the emotional energy that signals us that we are not God—that we will make mistakes, that we need help. Healthy shame gives us permission to be human.

We heal our toxic shame when we grasp that our "adult child" issues are about what happened to us, and not about who we really are!

True love is unconditional positive regard. Unconditional positive regard allows us to be whole and accept all the parts of ourselves. To be whole we must reunite all the shamed and split-off aspects of ourselves.

If we are essentially a mistake, flawed and defective, then there's nothing we can do about it.

Children who are not loved in their very beingness do not know how to love themselves. As adults, they have to learn to nourish, to mother their own lost child.

Total self-love and acceptance is the only foundation for happiness and the love of others.

Psychologist and New York Times best-selling author Phil McGraw states, "I always say that the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. You've got to be your own best friend first." How can you be "best friends" with someone you don't know or don't like? You can't. That's why it's so important to find out who you are and work to become someone you like and respect.

A broken heart does not mean a broken spirit, a broken mind or a broken vision. So, dont let the cracks in your heart overshadow the wholeness of the remainder of you