Quotes About Self-compassion

It involves (1) adopting feelings and attitudes toward oneself that are not oppressive and harsh, (2) setting aside being inordinately self-judgmental by giving oneself messages that are self-condemning—e.g., I am such a failure—and produce shame and guilt, (3) not slandering and demeaning oneself, and (4) not beating oneself up and holding a grudge against oneself.

It's actually all right with God if you are nice to yourself! Rather than experiencing your anxiety or depression as an occasion for self-loathing and condemning yourself for being such a failure, you can experience it as an opportunity to soften your heart towards yourself. Seek to have an open heart toward yourself with gentleness. After all, we are all flawed and fragile! Your anxiety or depression is simply a part of common humanity.

Feel your own precious body and life. Let yourself see the way you have hurt or harmed yourself. Picture them, remember them. Feel the sorrow you have carried from this and sense that you can release these burdens. Extend forgiveness for each of them, one by one.

No need to bend under the weight of past mistakes. That kind of bending breaks us.

A whole lifetime could be spent making excuses, giving in, feeling guilty, resolving to do better, mentally beating myself up for not sticking to my resolve, feeling like a failure, and then resigning myself to the fact that things can't change.

Self-rejection paves the landing strip for the rejection of others to arrive and pull on up to the gates of our hearts. Think about why it hurts so much when other people say or do things that make you feel rejected. Isn't it in part due to the fact they just voiced some vulnerability you've already berated yourself for? It hurts exponentially more when you're kicked in an already bruised shin.

I had allowed to settle into the core of who I am. I talked about myself in ways I would never let another person.

Negative self-talk was a rejection from my past that I had allowed to settle into the core of who I am. I talked about myself in ways I would never let another person.

Refuse to wallow in the depressing angst condemnation brings.

After learning , please be realistic. Give yourself a permission to keep making mistakes. We must also give ourselves the gift of understanding that we can't remember everything we learned at once

Kummerspeck ("grief bacon") is German for the weight put on from eating too much when feeling sorry for yourself.

I'm a perfectionist. Sometimes I have to remind myself that it's okay if there are flaws here and there.

Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.

I made decisions that I regret, and I took them as learning experiences... I'm human, not perfect, like anybody else.

I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself and others like me.

In the process of deeply accepting our own inner experience, instead of being identified with a story of a limited self, we realize the compassion and wakefulness that is our essence.

Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections, that's their fault.

When you recognize that failing doesn't make you a failure, you give yourself permission to try all sorts of things.

You forgive yourself for every failure because you are trying to do the right thing. God knows that and you know it. Nobody else may know it.

Do not nag yourself with a sense of failure

My long lists of faults goes on. I've had a lifetime of insecurity. But I'm so sick of using the mirror with such scrutiny.

Forgive those who insult you, belittle you, or take you for granted. But more than this Forgive Yourself for allowing them to Hurt You.

Sometimes, I can't be put back together. It feels like I'm always gonna be this way forever. But sometimes, the sadness is all I have, so I don't want to be better.

Exposing our frailties and recognizing that we are not perfect frees us from feeling stupid or less than.