Quotes About Self-compassion

By regarding ourselves with kindness, we begin to dissolve the identity of an isolated, deficient self. This creates the grounds for including others in an unconditionally loving heart.

If you try to lose weight by shaming, depriving and fearing yourself, you will end up shamed, deprived, and afraid. Kindness comes first. Always.

No one is more worthy of your kindness and compassion than you are.

You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. Treat yourself with outrageous kindness beginning today.

Kindness in your dealings with yourself and others will work wonders in your life. Much more so than rightness in your thinking.

Our entire life - consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.

Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness

Growth begins when we begin to accept our own weakness.

She doesn't rebuke herself for thinking it; she does herself the small kindness of forgiving her malfunctioning logic.

Stop trying to heal yourself, fix yourself, even awaken yourself. Let go of letting go. Stop trying to fast-forward the movie of your life, chasing futures that never seem to arrive. Instead, bow deeply to yourself as you actually are. Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your deepest longing, your fearful thoughts...are not mistakes, and they aren't asking to be healing. They are asking to be held. Here, now, lightly, in the loving arms of present awareness.

As you begin to accept that you were not responsible for the abuse, and that your parents had a problem many people have, you may feel less embarrassed.

You may also be angry with yourself that you couldn't stop it from happening.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Everybody has thoughts that shame them. You can't control them coming in, but you don't have to let them all out. That's the crux of it.

When I tried this morning, after an hour or so of unhappy thinking, to dip back into my meditation, I took a new idea with me: compassion. I asked my heart if it could please infuse my soul with a more generous perspective on my mind's workings. Instead of thinking that I was a failure, could I perhaps accept that I am only a human being--and a normal one, at that?

Whatever you do, try not to dwell too long on your failures. You don't need to conduct autopsies on your disasters.

That's just your ego, trying to make sure it stays in charge. This is what ego does. It keeps you feeling separate, keeps you with a sense of duality, tries to convince you that you're flawed and broken and alone instead of whole.

He endeared himself to me forever the first night we met, when I was getting frustrated with my inability to find the words I wanted in Italian, and he put his hand on my arm and said, Liz, you must be very polite with yourself when you are learning something new.

Speak to your darkest and most negative interior voices the way a hostage negotiator speaks to a violent psychopath: calmly, but firmly. Most of all, never back down. You cannot afford to back down. The life you are negotiating to save, after all, is your own.

I think there are writers who take a quieter approach to their work — one that is just about respectfully showing up for your vocation day after day, steadily doing your best, and letting go of the results. Not going to war against anyone else, or against their talents, or against themselves.

You don't need to conduct autopsies on your disasters.

One by one, the thoughts and memories of sadness raised their hands, stood up to identify themselves. I looked at each thought, at each unit of sorrow, and I acknowledged its existence and felt (without trying to protect myself from it) its horrible pain. And then I would tell that sorrow, It's OK. I love you. I accept you. Come into my heart now. It's over....

You can let yourself off the hook anytime you want, Liz. That's the divine contract of a little something we call free will.

It doesn't have to be perfect, and you don't have to be Plato.