Quotes About Expectations

It isn't expectations that carry us forward, it's our desire to go on.

They went to university because someone, at a time when universities seemed important, said that in order to rise in the world, you had to have a degree. And thus the world was deprived of some excellent gardeners, bakers, antique dealers, sculptors, and writers.

That's how love got lost ... when we started laying down rules for when love should or shouldn't appear.

Suffering occurs when we want other people to love us in the way we imagine we want to be loved, and not in the way that love should manifest itself--free and untrammeled, guiding us with its force and driving us on.

You are born, go to school, and attend university in search of a husband. You get married - even if he is the worse man in the world - just so that others can't say no one wants you. You have children, grow old, and spend the end of your days watching passersby from a chair on the sidewalk, pretending to know everything about life yet unable to silence the voice in your heart that says: You could try something else.

How can one set these opposite states in harmony? There is only one way: through giving oneself completely. How does one give oneself? By forgetting the traumas of the past, and by not forming expectations about the future - in other words, the orgasm. How can one do this? Very simply: by not being afraid to err.

She hated the love she had been given, because it had asked for nothing in return, which was absurd, unreal, against the laws of nature

Evidently this safety is completely false; no one can control anything, and a change always appears at the moment one least expects it, taking us surprise and with no chance to react or fight.

Finally, he explained to me that suffering occurs when we want other people to love us in the way we imagine we want to be loved, and not in the way that love should manifest itself-free and untrammeled , guiding us with its force and driving us on.

That was what made travelling appeal to him - he always made new friends,and he didn't need to spend all of his time with them. When someone sees the same people every day, as had happened with him at the seminary, they wind up becoming a part of that person's life.And then they want the person to change. If someone isn't what others want them to be,the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives,but none about his or her own.

We suffer because we feel we are giving more than we receive. We suffer because our love is going unrecognized. We suffer because we are unable to impose our own rules.

I was very happy in both my marriages. I was unfaithful and so were they, just like any other normal couple.

Those who make promises they don't keep end up powerless and frustrated, and exactly the same fate awaits those who believe those promises.

And then they want the person to change. If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry.

She hated the love she had been given because it had asked for nothing in return, which was absurd, unreal, against the laws of nature. The love asking for nothing in return had managed to fill her with guilt, with a desire to fulfill another's expectations even if that meant giving up everything she had dreamed of for herself.

suffering occurs when we want other people to love us in the way we want to be loved.

If he was the man she wanted him to be, he would not be intimidated by her silence.

What makes a person hate themselves? Cowardice, perhaps. Or the eternal fear of being wrong, of not doing what others expect. A few moments ago I was happy, I forgot I was under the sentence of death; then when I remembered the situation I'm in, I felt frightened.

Comme cela arrive, d'ailleurs, à la plupart des gens en ce monde : ils recherchent la souffrance là où ils trouveraient les joies les plus grandes, parce qu'ils croient qu'ils ne méritent pas le bonheur.

We aren't who we want to be. We are what society demands. We are what our parents choose. We don't want to disappoint anyone; we have a great need to be loved. So we smother the best in us. Gradually, the light of our dreams turns into the monster of our nightmares. They become things not done, possibilities not lived.

En los cuentos infantiles, las princesas besan a los sapos, que se transforman en príncipes. En la vida real, las princesas besan a los príncipes, que se transforman en sapos.

we feel obliged to repress our emotions and our desires, because they don't fit with what we call "maturity.

No somos lo que deseamos ser,Somos lo que la sociedad exige.Somos lo que nuestros padres eligieron.No queremos decepcionar a nadie,sentimos una gran necesidad de ser amados.Por eso reprimimos lo mejor de nosotros mismos.Poco a poco,lo que era la luz de nuestros sueños se convierte en el monstruo de nuestras pesadillas.Son los deseos no realizados,las posibilidades no vividas.