Quotes About Expectations

Children of mothers who are only sometimes available and who aren't reliably attuned adapt by being ambivalently attached. Because they don't know what to expect—is she going to be the nice mommy or the yelling one?—these children develop anxiety and insecurity about the maternal relationship and, as adults, a sense of all relationships as being essentially unreliable.

A "healthy" woman had children; a "happy" and "fulfilled" woman was a mother.

There is only one princess in the Disney tales, one girl who gets to be exalted. Princesses may confide in a sympathetic mouse or teacup, but they do not have girlfriends. God forbid Snow White should give Sleeping Beauty a little support. Let's review: princesses avoid female bonding. Their goals are to be saved by a prince, get married, and be taken care of the rest of their lives.

motive: being motivated by a desire to improve the relationship • timing: considering the best time to have a conversation • location: choosing surroundings that support communication • attitude: having an attitude conducive to a productive discussion • responsiveness: listening in such a way as to encourage honesty • expectations: openness to whatever results from this effort

Why is it that beautiful women never seem to have curiosity? Is it because they know they're classical? With classical things the Lord finished the job. Ordinary ugly people know they're deficient and they go on looking for the pieces.

The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled, by the voices of other people's expectations. The tongue of the original self is the language of the heart.

Lady Beckenham snorted and said there was nothing on God's earth as unrewarding as the human baby.

I must say this has revised my view that nothing could be worse than a wedding. There not being a wedding.

How long do you mean to be content?

Not for the first time Spooner was reminded that marriage was not the straighforward assembly the instruction book led you to believe.

He's kinda shy. Maybe I should ask him out." "I think it's more traditional for you to trick him into asking you out. That way he feels more manly.

Miz Fitz, If my boyfriend would just once say "I'm sorry, I was wrong," I think I would die and go to heaven. -Hellbound, a Lass Miz Fitz sez: You should wish for something realistic, like world peace.

Nowadays, many therapists attach the phrase "good enough" to concepts like friend, partner, therapist or person. This is usually done to deconstruct perfectionistic expectations of relationships - expectations that are so unrealistic that they are destructive to essentially worthwhile relationships.

You're born cute. Babies are cute. Not hard to guess why – it's so everyone will forgive them for being such a pain. You grow a little older, and people say, what beautiful hair, or get a load of those baby blues,' or something nice that keeps you thinking you're still on the cuteness track. Then you hit twelve or thirteen and boom, they tell you everything needs fixing.

If you don't believe this, think what would happen if a teacher gave all A's. The teacher would have a problem.

I always looked forward to being an adult, because I thought the adult world was, well—adult. That adults weren't cliquey or nasty, that the whole notion of being cool, or in, or popular would case to be the arbiter of all things social, but I was beginning to realize that the adult world was as nonsensically brutal and socially perilous as the kingdom of childhood.

Siempre he esperado con ilusión hacerme adulto, porque pensaba que el mundo adulto era... bueno... adulto, que los adultos no eran exclusivistas ni desagradables, que la idea de ir a la última o de ser sofisticado o popular dejaría de marcar la vida social, pero empezaba a darme cuenta de que el mundo de los adultos era tan absurdamente brutal y peligoros en lo social como lo era en el reino de la infancia.

So," he said, after he had taken a bite "you're not going to tell me?" "Not going to tell you what?" "Whether or not you're gay." "No," I said. "Why should I? Did you tell your parents?" "I wasn't gay," said my father. "I was straight." "So, what, if you're gay you have a moral obligation to inform your parents and if you're straight you don't?

There are no such things as happy endings. Never. They're totally manufactured by fiction writers who choose to end the story on a high point.

Unfortunately, the world does not always act in a manner consistent with one's plans for it.

out…That's why they want the Beatles to go on, so they can get all silly again. But

Executives owe it to the organization and to their fellow workers not to tolerate nonperforming individuals in important jobs.

Checking the results of a decision against its expectations shows executives what their strengths are, where they need to improve, and where they lack knowledge or information.

Sweating bullets to line up the Bible with our exhausting expectations, to make the Bible something it's not meant to be, isn't a pious act of faith, even if it looks that way on the surface. It's actually thinly masked fear of losing control and certainty, a mirror of an inner disquiet, a warning signal that deep down we do not really trust God at all.