Quotes About Expectations

most people who are angry with God are angry with him for being God. They're not angry because he has failed to deliver what he promised, They're angry because he has failed to deliver what they have craved, expected or demanded.

Without knowing it, we put our identity and inner peace in the hands of the people around us. We look to them for what no flawed human being will ever be able to deliver. We ride the roller coaster of their views of us. We begin to do things not because they are right, but because we know they will please those whose opinion of us and acceptance of us mean more than they should.

If you put too many things in your need category, you will end up frustrated with life, hurt by others, and doubting God's goodness.

When my hope is in my ability to rule the day, my spouse becomes a constant threat rather than an intimate companion.

So much of our disappointment in relationships is not because we have an unrealistic view of others, but because we have a distorted view of ourselves.

Whatever sits on the other side of your "if-only" is where you are looking for life, peace, joy, hope,

I still lack humility. I still tend to make life about my plan, my feelings, my desires, and my expectations. I am still tempted to assess the "good" of a day by whether it pleased me versus whether I pleased God and was loving toward others. I still am tempted to live as if I own my life and still fail to remember that I was bought with a price.

When you think you're righteous, you expect others to be righteous as well, so you become demanding, judgmental, and constantly disappointed.

Parenting is about the condition that makes good behavior seem such a hard and elusive goal.

Our agenda, our definition of what a good God should give us, is a life that is comfortable, pleasurable, and predictable; one in which there's lots of human affirmation and an absence of suffering. But consider God's agenda,

Modest expectations will also mean that you can avoid false-hope syndrome, whereby we stick with crazy expectations way past the point at which we should have reined them in.

Everyone takes pause at 40. It's the age you have to assess everything in your life. It's the fictitious marker that's always coming up when you're young. The world really does look at you to kind of have it together by 40, and be successful by 40. Whatever success means.

The greatest way for people to experience a comedy is to go in not knowing anything about it. But because of marketing, it's impossible. Marketing meaning that in order to get people to come you can't just go, 'Hey, there's a great movie - we're not going to show you anything from it but trust us!'

I'm kind of a failure. I mean, I'll be honest. I'm successful in that I'm getting to work on great stuff, but I think I'm a failure in all the personal stuff that is most important to me.

Before marriage, many couples are very much like people rushing to catch an airplane once aboard, they turn into passengers. They just sit there.

You're such an optimist Kane -- that's your problem. You only end up disappointed.

The gap in our economy is between what we have and what we think we ought to have — and that is a moral problem, not an economic one.

We typically think we're going to find the perfect mate who's going to solve all our problems and make our life perfect and that is just unrealistic. We fall in love with human beings, and human being have cracks and we actually love people for their vulnerability.

God's rules and expectations aren't meant to limit and frustrate us but instead to benefit us:

If you're a lawyer in a TV show, you handle only one case at a time, wrap it up by the last pitch for Pepto-Bismol, after which you're toting your briefcase down the courthouse steps with a beautiful client congratulating you for a wonderful job. Real life is different.

We tear ourselves inside out for something the world may love, then base our worth on that.

I hate the idea of success robbing you of your private life.

Yet that's how it felt for years and years -- that Andover ground me beneath the heel of its Bass Weejuns because it needed losers to make its golden Adonises shine even brighter. I wandered through so lost and sad, I can't believe nobody ever asked me what was wrong. Nothing, I would have said, by which I would have meant Everything .

Less frequently discussed is how many of us are chronically unhappy because we don't come up to the expectations of our children, many of whom delight in showing us their disapproval.