Quotes About Expectations

People don't really want to know anything about you. They just want to put you into their little preordained slots. They decide what you are in the first two seconds, and they only get nervous or upset if you don't live up to their snap judgements. That's the only way the normal world's like the Real – it all depends on who people think you are. Figure that out, play to what they expect, and it's clear sailing.

Everyone was nice when they wanted something from you —was it a divinity thing, or just a basic natural fact?

It came to him that he didn't like holidays. . . . They bore down on you. Each one always ended up feeling like an exam . . .

You have so much to offer, she was often told, as if she had a tray of cigarettes and candy perpetually strapped to her waist.

Was it possible in any relationship to not disappoint, to do anything more than only briefly rekindle the initial fatal illusion?

Soon Paula would begin complaining that he didn't understand her, didn't appreciate her, didn't love her enough, when in fact he loved her so much his heart often felt shredded by it. But people always wanted words for all that roiled inside you.

At first, with my boyfriend in college, I believed it, too. Later, I thought I was just choosing delusional men. Now I understand it's how boys are raised to think, how they are lured into adulthood. I've met ambitious women, driven women, but no woman has ever told me that greatness was her destiny.

He seems genuinely happy for me. You can't always count on a guy for that.

They do this with women. Their teachers, their friends' mothers. Well, you saw it at the restaurant. They sort of throw themselves at them. It breaks my heart because what is it going to look like in ten years with girls their age? All that neediness.

My parents were married twenty-three years and never made it look appealing.

Between our call and today he talked himself out of me, and now he is coming back around. I squat there and think about how you get trained early on as a woman to perceive how others are perceiving you, at the great expense of what you yourself are feeling about them. Sometimes you mix the two up in a terrible tangle that's hard to unravel.

Now I understand it's how boys are raised to think, how they are lured into adulthood. I've met ambitious women, driven women, but no woman has ever told me that greatness was her destiny.

Sometimes i worry about being a success in a mediocre world.

All my life I always wanted to be someone. I see now I should have been more specific.

The fonder you are of your ideals, the greater your heartbreaks.

The fathers of the government expected and intended the institution of slavery to come to an end. They expected and intended that it should be in the course of ultimate extinction. And when I say that I desire to see the further spread of it arrested, I only say I desire to see that done which the fathers have first done.

for women. These results suggest that men are asking for things they want and initiating negotiations much more

Expectations placed low enough are rarely disappointed.

Happiness is getting what we want; contentment is wanting what we get.

I always looked for a man to rescue me and bring me happiness. I bought into that myth, of course, and looked for my own Prince Charming.

Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.

Sometimes there is more to a person's need for white picket fences than safety, just as sometimes there is more to a person's rebellion than the need to lash out against rules.

I was the girl whose face fell when she saw a wrapped present in the shape of a box, perhaps a jigsaw puzzle. Worst of all, that preparation for the future slave-house of motherhood, a doll. I only wanted book tokens or books themselves – but better a book token. The worst present is the book you don't want to read.

I think getting information you didn't ask is one of the basic features of dating apps.