Quotes About Expectations

Why is it that men can be bastards and women must wear pearls and smile?

There are some people men and women both who will never be happy no matter what the circumstances they find themselves. There's not enough money, no Castle grand enough, no life easy enough to content them.

England of 1840 expected its young, affluent women to be literate and culturally astute, but it provided no real occupation for women with energy and vision. Fields of endeavor that were open to energetic, ambitious men—the military, finance, law, medicine, manufacture—were effectively closed to women.

And yet, I suppose you mourn the loss or the death of what you thought your life was, even if you find your life is better after. You mourn the future that you thought you'd planned.

Showing up underdressed is as smart as standing in the marketplace and shouting you've become an agent for the crown." "I'd hang myself first. I hate being a female." "Well until you sprout a beard and cock there you are.

Then I came face to face with the realization that disappointing people is the greatest fear of the nice girl.

My dance on the pedestal was my friendship with Maureen. I wasn't sure how I had lost my balance and fallen off. Or whether I was pushed. Everyone around me was trying to get me to dance again. The thing was, I hadn't quite given up on getting back up there. I still believed it was the only place where I could be happy.

It seems to me those are just the ones who have to do without, because, in the final analysis, they can. And men basically want women who can't live without them.

Reality disappoints regularly. When people are supposed to have fun, it's likely they won't, because fun can't live up to its image. Does anything live up to its image?

Unrealistic neediness is actually greediness in disguise.

No, it's not wrong to need people. But some of our biggest disappointments in life are the result of expectations we have of others that they can't ever possibly meet. That's when the desire to connect becomes an unrealistic need. Unrealistic neediness is actually greediness in disguise.

Don't allow the unrealistic demands of others to march freely into your life.

Evaluation eliminates frustration. We should also evaluate unrealistic expectations. Unrealistic expectations become unmet expectations. And unmet expectations are like kindling wood-it only takes but a spark of frustration to set them ablaze and burn those involved.

We must respect ourselves enough to break the pattern of placing unrealistic expectations on others.

I expect a perfection in me and a perfection in others that not even God Himself expects. If God is patient with the process, why can't I be?

Giving with strings of secret expectations attached is the greatest invitation to heartbreak.

Labels start out as little threads of self dissatisfaction but ultimately weave together into a straightjacket of self-condemnation

Unrealistic expectations are things the other person isn't able or willing to do for me. I have to let go of these.

What were the unrealistic expectations I had, and how can I better manage these next time?

Finally, I went to my husband. "Honey," I said, feeling the entanglements of expectations loosening their grip on me, "I can't do everything good wives seem to do. But I can do three things. So, tell me your top three things, and I will do those well." After all, I could spend a whole marriage doing a hundred things halfway with a bitter attitude and an overwhelmed spirit. Or, I could do three things wholeheartedly with a smile on my face and love in my heart.

Giving with strings of secret expectations attached is the greatest invitation to heartbreak. That's not love. That's manipulation.

We must respect ourselves enough to break the pattern of placing unrealistic expectations on others. After all, people will not respect us more than we respect ourselves. No, it's not wrong to need people. But some of our biggest disappointments in life are the result of expectations we have of others that they can't ever possibly meet.

The space between our expectations and our reality is a fertile field, and it's the perfect place to grow a bumper crop of disappointment.

A hurtful statement can be called a mistake. But a repeated pattern of hurtful statements or uncaring attitudes or even unjust expectations is much more than a mistake. These patterns are misuses of the purposes of a relationship. Why is this so crucial to understand? Because unchecked misuse of a relationship can quickly turn into abuse in a relationship.