Quotes About Expectations

We are not always humiliated by failing at things, he suggested; we are humiliated only if we invest our pride and sense of worth in a given aspiration or achievement and then are disappointed in our pursuit of it.

cynics are merely idealists with unusually high standards. Through

The pursuit of personal happiness and the production of healthy children are two radically contrasting projects, which love maliciously confuses us into thinking of as one for a requisite number of years. We should not be surprised by marriages between people who would never have been friends

Asumption: monogamy is the natural state of love.(...) It is not! It is an infantile idealism to wish to find everything in one other being

We may be happy with little when we have come to expect little. And we may be miserable with much when we have been taught to expect everything.

Cele mai atr?g?toare femei nu sunt cele care ne dau voie s? le s?rut?m imediat (devenim repede nerecunosc?tori) ?i nici cele care nu ne las? deloc s? le s?rut?m (le uit?m repede), ci cele care ne duc de nas aceste extreme.

We place such demands on our partners, and become so unreasonable around them, because we have faith that someone who understands obscure parts of us, whose presence solves so many of our woes, must somehow also be able to fix everything about our lives. We exaggerate the other's powers in a curious sort of homage—heard in adult life decades down the line—to a small child's awe at their own parents' apparently miraculous capacities. To

N-o s? reuÈ™esc niciodat? s? fac sau s? fiu tot ce vrei - È™i nici invers -, dar mi-ar pl?cea s? cred c? putem fi tipul de oameni care îÈ™i spun unii altora cine sunt de fapt. Alternativa înseamna t?cere È™i minciun?, care sunt adev?raÈ›ii duÈ™mani ai iubirii.

Mutluluk, bizim beklentilerimizdeki gibi kesintisiz ve uzun süren bir memnuniyet duygusu deÄŸildir. Aksine, akl?n ve bilincin de iÅŸin içinde olduÄŸu, k?sac?k ve tesadüfi bir olgudur; k?sa bir süre için dünyay? çok net alg?lar?z; geçmiÅŸin ve geleceÄŸin olumlu düÅŸünceleri bir araya gelir ve endiÅŸeler ortadan kaybolur. Fakat bu durumun on dakikadan daha uzun sürdüÄŸü pek nadirdir.

Most business meetings involve one party elaborately suppressing a wish to shout at the other: 'just give us the money'.

On the one hand, we may try to achieve more; and on the other, we may reduce the number of things we want to achieve.

even if the whole of the man-made world could, through relentless effort and sacrifice, be modelled to rival St Mark's Square, even if we could spend the rest of our lives in the Villa Rotonda or the Glass House, we would still often be in a bad mood. 7.

An idealism previously directed at gods and spirits has been rerouted towards human subjects – an ostensibly generous gesture nevertheless freighted with forbidding and brittle consequences, since it is no simple thing for any human being to honour over a lifetime the perfections he or she might have hinted at to an imaginative observer in the street, the office or the adjoining aeroplane seat.

Agora ele sabe que as ideias românticas são uma receita de desastre. Sua aptidão para o casamento baseia-se em critérios bem diferentes. Ele está apto para o casamento porque — para começar a lista — desistiu da perfeição.

Our fear of failing at various tasks would likely be much less were it not for our awareness of how harshly failure tends to be viewed and interpreted by others.

The rich believe that their money will insulate them from setbacks and frustrations, and that's one of the absurdist expectations of all.

Those among us who chose to stay single should not be thought un-Romantic. Indeed, we may be among the very most Romantic of all, which is precisely why we find the possibilities open to us especially unappetising. It's in the end the fervent Romantics who should be especially careful of ending up in mediocre relationships: relationships best suit the kind of people who don't expect too much from them.

Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.

Everyone endeavours to eliminate through the other individual his own weaknesses, defects, and deviations from the type, lest they be perpetuated or even grow into complete abnormalities in the child which will be produced.

We end up believing that our struggles are indications of having made some unusual and fundamental error, rather than evidence that our marriages are essentially going entirely according to plan.

We cease to appreciate things when we believe that life should be perfect and we can eradicate all known problems.

Knowing that something difficult is being attempted doesn't rob the wise of ambition, but it makes them more steadfast, calmer and less prone to panic about the problems that will invariably come their way. The wise rarely expect anything to be wholly easy or to go entirely well.

Albert Camus suggested that we fall in love with people because, from the outside, they look so whole, physically whole and emotionally "together," when subjectively we feel dispersed and confused. We would not love if there were no lack within us, but we are offended by the discovery of a similar lack in the other. Expecting to find the answer, we find only the duplicate of our own problem.

quienes se burlan de la amistad [...] bien pueden ser los mejores amigos del mundo», quizá porque quienes lo hacen abordan ese vínculo con expectativas más realistas que el resto.