Quotes About Expectations

Marrying for sex is like flying to London for the free peanuts and pretzels. It's not the point of the thing, is it?

Some luck lies in not getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you have got it you may be smart enough to see is what you would have wanted had you known

How come it's all right for the bad guys to do whatever they want, and whenever I want to do something it's 'forget about it'? What's the good of being the Rightful Heir anyway? All I get is trouble!

Such guidelines might be instinctive (a long line at a restaurant probably means business is good) or societally reinforced (it's a good idea to stretch your budget when buying a house), but in either case, they are sometimes misleading.

home prices don't rise as fast or as much as Americans think, and even when they do, such levels are rarely sustainable (as we have seen in recent years). So there is often no financial justification for buying more house than you can afford in the hope that price hikes will reward you later.

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A positive message delivered in a negative manner will always reap negative results. As one child said, "My parents are yelling and screaming at me, telling me not to yell and scream. They expect me to do something they have not learned to do. It's unfair.

A nadie le gusta que lo obliguen a hacer algo. Es más, el amor se da siempre con libertad. No se puede exigir el amor. Podemos pedirnos cosas el uno al otro, pero nunca debemos exigir nada. Las peticiones dan dirección al amor, pero las demandas detienen el flujo del amor.

Before marriage, we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we were before we "fell in love.

I've been wanting to ask someone this for a long time," he said. "What happens to the love after you get married?

We believe that she is committed to meeting our needs, that he loves us as much as we love him and would never do anything to hurt us. That thinking is always fanciful. Not that we are insincere in what we think and feel, but we are unrealistic. We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature, we are egocentric.

studying scores of couples, she concluded that the average life span of a romantic obsession is two years. If it is a secretive love affair, it may last a little longer. Eventually, however, we all descend from the clouds and plant our feet on earth again. Our eyes are opened, and we see the warts of the other person. Her endearing "quirks" are now merely annoying. His sharp sense of humor now wounds. Those little bumps we overlooked when we were in love now become huge mountains.

The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than the divorce rate of first marriages. The divorce rate in third marriages is higher still. Apparently the prospect of a happier marriage the second and third time around is not substantial.

I would like to make three other observations. First, they illustrate clearly that what we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.

Unconditional love shows love to a child no matter what. We love regardless of what the child looks like; regardless of her assets, liabilities, or handicaps; regardless of what we expect her to be; and, most difficult of all, regardless of how she acts.

No matter what I did, it was never enough.

6   If I love them only when they meet my requirements or expectations, they will feel incompetent and will believe it is pointless to do their best, since it is never enough. They will always be plagued by insecurity, anxiety, low self-esteem, and anger. To guard against this, I need to often remind myself of my responsibility for their total growth. (For more on this, you will want to read How to Really Love Your Child by Ross Campbell.)

Sadly, some parents display a love that is conditional; it depends on something other than their children just being. Conditional love is based on performance and is often associated with

Many workaholics also feel unloved. The message they received from their parents was not, "We love you," but rather, "We love you if … We love you if you make up your bed, put your dishes in the dishwasher, clean up your room, mow the grass, and make straight A's." Such conditional love sets a child up to become an adult workaholic.

Human nature often impels us to look at others in our lives and cry, But you don't care. I can only love you if you love me. Our human nature tends to withhold and wait to give until we're sure we'll get benefits for our emotional time and trouble. But how contrary human nature is to true love! When we long for someone to change, sometimes the best step to take is the first step - acting not on the way things are but on the way we wish a relationship to be.

5   If I love them only when they please me (conditional love), and if I express my love to them only at those times, they will not feel genuinely loved.

Research indicates that the average life span of the "in love" obsession is two years.1 For some it may last a bit longer; for some, a bit less. But the average is two years. Then we come down off the emotional high and those aspects of life that we disregarded in our euphoria begin to become important.

It is a capital insult in this country not to make love to a naked woman, even if she is related to you.

I wonder what children whose parents have money think about in their spare time.