Quotes About Expectations

Away from her sister, Celia talked quite easily, and Sir James said to himself that the second Miss Brooke was certainly very agreeable as well as pretty, though not, as some people pretended, more clever and sensible than the elder sister. He felt that he had chosen the one who was in all respects the superior; and a man naturally likes to look forward to having the best. He would be the very Mawworm of bachelors who pretended not to expect it.

A woman's no business wi' being so clever; it'll turn to trouble, I doubt.

Every lady ought to be a perfect horsewoman, that she may accompany her husband." "You see how widely we differ, Sir James. I have made up my mind that I ought not to be a perfect horsewoman, and so I should never correspond to your pattern of a lady.

Is there no other alternative, Maggie? Is that life, away from those who love you, the only one you will allow yourself to look forward to?

the mother too often standing behind the daughter like a malignant prophecy—Such as I am, she will shortly be.

She felt sure that she would have accepted the judicious Hooker, if she had been born in time to save him from that wretched mistake he made in matrimony; or John Milton when his blindness had come on; or any of the other great men whose odd habits it would have been glorious piety to endure; but an amiable handsome baronet, who said Exactly to her remarks even when she expressed uncertainty,—how could he affect her as a lover? The

But why should you regret it more because I am a woman? Perhaps because we need that you should be better than we are. But suppose _we_ need that men should be better than we are, said Gwendolen with a little air of check! That is rather a difficulty, said Deronda, smiling. I suppose I should have said, we each of us think it would be better for the other to be good.

Me naiset emme voi lähteä seikkailemaan - etsimään luoteisväylää tai Niilin lähteitä, tai itään metsästämään tiikereitä. Meidän täytyy pysyä siellä missä kasvamme, tai minne puutarhurit meidät haluavat siirtää. Meidät kasvatetaan kuin kukat: näytämme niin sieviltä kuin voimme, emmekä valita, vaikka pitkästyisimme. (Daniel Deronda s. 152-153)

Kun annetaan valmis malli - 'tällainen on juutalainen nainen, tällainen sinun pitää olla, tällaiseen sinua tarvitaan, naisen sydämen on oltava sen ja sen kokoinen eikä yhtään suurempi, muuten se rusennetaan pieneksi kuin kiinalaiset jalat; naisen onni tehdään kuin kakku, aina saman reseptin mukaan. S. 693

in courtship everything is regarded as provisional and preliminary, and the smallest sample of virtue or accomplishment is taken to guarantee delightful stores which the broad leisure of marriage will reveal.

I wonder how girls manage to fall in love. It is easy to make them do it in books. But men are too ridiculous. Gwendolen Harleth

He did not confess to himself, still less could he have breathed to another, his surprise that though he had won a lovely and noble-hearted girl he had not won delight, which he had also regarded as an object to be found by search.

And to me it is one of the most odious things in a girl's life, that there must always be some supposition of falling in love coming between her and any man who is kind to her, and to whom she is grateful. I should have thought that I, at least, might have been safe from all that.

I don't approve of surprises. The pleasure is never enhanced and the inconvenience is considerable.

What takes the place of the strict rules of the Strict Father model is clarity of expectations and empathy. What takes the place of reward and punishment is interdependence, communication, and a true desire to remain affectionately connected to those you live with. F

First, they follow the model of their parents' behavior. Second, through being securely attached to their parents, they become attuned to their parents' expectations and try to meet them. If the parents are careful about making their expectations realistic and appropriately challenging—rather than overdemanding or nondemanding—the children will be able to meet them and develop mastery. The

The fact that women are constantly supposed to be beautiful, gorgeous, and perfect all the time is something they have always had to live with. But now it's happening to men, too. There seems to be this imperative that you have to be hot or ripped or fit or healthy or whatever you want to call it.

Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.

So many times I've wanted to crack up, standing there stiff while seven women are crawling round my toes fixing hems and the designer's having a freak-out because the denim cuffs are crooked. I'm on the verge of hysteria.

People ask why there are so few female artists who succeed. It's because women are not ready to sacrifice as much as men. Women want a man, they want a family, they want to have children, they want to be loved, and to be an artist. And they can't; it's impossible.

Many differences are rooted in biology and reinforced through culture, so it's important to acknowledge that. Because if you say men and women are the same and if male behaviour is the norm, and women are always expected to act like men, we will never be as good at being men as men are.

A huge part of keeping women in their place has to do with creating a really limited definition of what a 'real' woman is like. And a ton of that what-makes-a-woman nonsense is attached to motherhood. Apparently, by virtue of having ovaries and a uterus, women are automatic mommies or mommies-to-be.

It seems women are expected to be so much more than men, which means we have to work that much harder. We're the ones under the microscope. We're expected to sound perfect. We're expected to look perfect all the time. We're expected to be style-setters, whereas the boys roll onto the stage in their jeans, T-shirts and baseball caps.

Women are upset if their partner has an intimate conversation of any kind with someone who isn't them. They consider it a violation, a betrayal. Men should think this way, but they don't.