Quotes About Expectations

Everyone knows you never find love when you go looking for it. You have to wait for it to find you.

Maybe we were being a bit unrealistic, but we had this hope that if we could just get into the Ivy League, everything would be set. We dreamed of Gothic libraries and leafy green quads and romantic dorms with fireplaces and guys who were not only cute but also smart and charming, and, quite possibly, British. In college, we believed, we'd finally find our people.

Smile sweetly at a waiter as you sit down and chances are you'll be treated with contempt.

Oh my dear, idealists are the cruelest monsters of them all.

The words used to drive me into secret rages, because on the one hand I wanted desperately to live up to my own reputation for cleverness, and on the other it seemed very unfair, that that cleverness, which I had never asked for, could be turned into something with which to cut me down.

She will be like everyone, putting on the things she sees the constructions she expects to find there.

A man ought to be a source of shame to his father, don't you think? If I ever have a son, I hope he makes my life hell. How, otherwise, will there ever be any progress?

As for women and men, she said—well, that was the first thing that must be cast off.

You are a lady,' he says softly, 'and young, and handsome.—I don't speak from gallantry now, you know that. I say only what is true. You might do anything. ' 'You are a man,' I answer. 'Men's truths are different from ladies'. I may do nothing, I assure you.

because on the one hand I wanted desperately to live up to my own reputation for cleverness, and on the other it seemed very unfair, that that cleverness, which I had never asked for, could be turned into something with which to cut me down.

the madder he knows you to be, the better. Saves disappointment, don't it?

Why is it we can never love the people we ought to?

The thing is, when it came to men, I wasn't unrealistic. I knew they all had their faults; I just wanted someone kind, someone I could trust

I get Weekend Panic, although less and less these days. Weekend Panic is when you think you should be doing bigger things, farther out of town, all perfectly planned ahead. And the fact that it's Saturday morning and a whole heap of nothing is ahead of you sends you into a FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) spin.

The more anxious we are, the more high-functioning we will make ourselves appear, which just encourages the world to lean on us more.

This is the hoary deal-when you have got a mood disorder, few people are heavy enough and patient enough to anchor your ups and downs. And if you're high functioning in your anxiety, there are not many men (or women) out there who will actually take the kite string off you in the first place. And I do wonder if it's grossly unfair to ever expect them to be able to. I've often expected this of my partners. The expectation was too high for both of us, with all of them.

GIVE UP THE ILLUSION that you deserve a problem-free life.

Truthful, tick. Gentle, tick. Fearless? Well, she'd never told her daughter she'd disappointed her before, so tick, tick, tick.

These women often believe they are fooling anyone who thinks well of them because without any warning the switch inside their heads could turn off and their feelings of inadequacy would be exposed. They worry that they won't have enough time, that their systems won't work, or that people will drop in unexpectedly. Any minute things could fall apart.

Relationships simply bring too many things to do and to consider, adding to stress and feelings of being overwhelmed. Women feel, at some level, that developing more relationships or even a few relationships to a deeper point will put them over the top.

People don't want you to be yourself, they just want you to be the person that they've decided you should be.

That was the deal with the really good-looking boys: they automatically assumed you were pining and panting for them and wouldn't be satisfied until you'd had their babies, no matter how ugly their personalities might be.

It would be like Cinderella moaning about getting blisters from her glass slippers.

Fashion models and financial models are similar. They bear a similar relationship to everyday world. Like supermodels, financial models are idealized representations of the real world, they are not real, they don't quite work the way that the real world works. There is celebrity in both worlds. In the end, there is the same inevitable disappointment" - Satyajit Das, Traders, Guns & Money